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Real Talk: Lead with intention or lose the mission

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Opening
As Reformed Christians, our communities are full of organizations, many of which took decades of hard work to build – from schools and churches to charities serving locally and abroad. We've been blessed in many ways and have been able to bless countless more. But these organizations take work – not just the blood, sweat, and tears of a generation that built them from the ground up, but ongoing day-to-day effort of so many volunteers and workers who work with such good intentions. How often do we hear, though, from the founding generation, from the generation that built these organizations, that an organization that we lead no longer really resembles the purpose that it was intended to serve? Are these organizations living up to their mission, or to the name that they were once given? Today, I'm joined by Peter Greer, president and CEO of Hope International, a Christ-centered nonprofit equipping underserved communities to break the cycle of poverty around the world. Peter is a co-author of over 15 books and has been inspired by the idea of keeping Christian organizations from straying from their intended purpose. Today we talk about his book Mission Drift and how Christian organizations can serve, grow, and prosper without losing their roots. Wherever you serve, I hope this conversation will help you understand the value of clarity and purpose. A big thanks to our friends at Nearalta for making this conversation possible. Be sure to check them out at nearalta.com.

Intro
The world's changing fast, but what questions should we really be asking? You're listening to Real Talk, a podcast presented by Reformed Perspective, where we take God's word and apply it to the nitty-gritty of life. Buckle up for real questions, real answers, and real direction. This is Real Talk.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Peter Greer, appreciate you joining me. This is a privilege. I read Mission Drift many years ago, before I started, I mean, my adult life, I don't know. Maybe that began 10 years ago, but before I got into like committee work in my community and stuff like that, I actually read Mission Drift. Someone recommended it to me, and it was it was something that's kind of changed my attitude on the approach I take to especially like nonprofit work and community work, so it's something that I was excited to read again in the last little bit, and you know, kind of dive into today with you. So I see you got another one of your books in the background there. I'm guessing this is very much tied in, although I haven't had the privilege of reading all – What is it? – 15 plus books that you've written.

Peter Greer
It's a problem, but yeah, I do love researching and writing. And you are correct. I mean, you always have kind of the last one behind you, I guess.

Tyler Vanderwoude
So that's how leaders lose their way. So that's I guessing right quite tied in.

Peter Greer
Yeah, some people have called it Mission Drift: The Personal Edition. Some of the same principles that we found about how organizations drift. It's really just an exploration of what happens in our heart, what happens in our lives. How do we drift? So there is an unmistakable and intentional connection between the themes and topics of the two books. Just a decade apart, Mission Drift did come out 10 years ago, and fun to have this one that just launched recently.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Yeah, awesome. Yeah, so yeah, I must read that book when it first came out, then. Mission Drift, because it it's been a while. But yeah, the yeah, my hope is to dive into that. So we'll definitely touch on the personal side of it. I haven't had the privilege to read that book, but yeah. So I guess how did you get into this world? You got into like mission work or you know not-for-profit work, and then you're the president and CEO of Hope International. So how did you get into that? And then what is that organization?

Peter Greer
Yeah, no thanks. And so it was it was early in my kind of life, I grew up as a pastor's kid and had this interest in global missions, and then got into kind of global studies. I thought you know business and finance was an area of interest, and at the time, I didn't necessarily see how those two fit together. But I was studying in Moscow and met someone who was using the tools of business and entrepreneurship to open up doors to some challenging contexts, and I thought that was the coolest thing that I had ever heard. These two interests of global missions meeting this interest in finance and entrepreneurship, and so that's really been my career. So I went to Cambodia initially, and then to Rwanda, and then to Zimbabwe, and then joined Hope International 21 years ago. So those were a few stops along the way. But we exist to invest in the dreams of families, so provide access to capital and training and coaching, and we do it in the world's underserved communities. And for us, our faith is at the very core as we proclaim and share, yeah, the love of Jesus as we do this work in the places where we serve. So it's a little bit of global missions and entrepreneurship and poverty alleviation. It's like the where those three spaces overlap is the place where Hope International resides.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Oh, that's cool. How did you personally – so you said you you mentioned you went to a few places. Were you doing the on the ground work? Were you like, how did you get to the point where you're this leader? You're the CEO now, and you're also writing books about how leaders should you know lead organizations.

Peter Greer
Yeah. So, I mean, you graduate from university, and you're excited, you're passionate, and you have no skills. At least that's what I had at that moment. And so I reached out to every organization that I knew that was doing this sort of work, and I said, "Hi, I'd love to join your team.” And not surprisingly, I got zero responses. I mean, not even acknowledged, and ended up actually getting some other experience that, in retrospect, was really really helpful. So I worked at a private school and got some experience that was helpful. And then the door did eventually open, and initially it was on the internal controls and fraud prevention side because you're dealing with money and you're dealing with these organizations, and so I joined World Relief, and that's what I did in Cambodia. And then an opening, they needed someone to come in urgently, and so I moved to Rwanda from there. Same organization, World Relief, and then yeah. Anyway, so those were the initial door openings, and then it was in graduate school that I did a project on Hope International, and I was doing it in the Democratic Republic of Congo, and spent a week overlapping with the president at the time. At the end of that week, he said, "I'm going to be leaving the organization to go to another,” and he said, "Would you consider applying for my role? I think that this would be a great spot for you.” And so, at age 29, that's when I joined Hope International, and it really has been an amazing team, an amazing global mission, and I am just as enthusiastic and excited about what we're doing today as I was when I started, but really the space of how do we really create excellent organizations around the world that provide investment capital to entrepreneurs with the intentional outreach, discipleship, and church strengthening in the way that we operate around the world. So that's the career. That's what I've been doing.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Wow, that's yeah. I've definitely… there's impact to be had all up and down that. So that's really cool. How did you get into writing books about it? Like you, at some point, people are asking you probably for advice and things. And I guess so we can tie this into the book Mission Drift, like how did you come across this idea? When did that kind of come about?

Peter Greer
Yeah, so 2008 I was on a hike in California, and I was you know… these people I hadn't met before, and one of them his name was Donald Miller, and he was talking about… I was just very interested and very generous in learning more about the work that we were doing, and near the end he said you should write a book about that. And this other individual who was on the hike with us, his name was Jeremy Cowart, and he said, "And Jeremy, he's a global photographer. You should put his pictures in the book.” And he made it sound very easy, and turns out it's not quite that easy to write a book, but that started a journey, and I did start writing at that moment. And I guess in many ways I didn't stop. I love the journey, and I guess there's two kind of components of that. One is that writing makes you go deep, and in leadership we're always pulled to be shallow. And for me, a book writing is like my own professional education to not be shallow, but to say I'm going to go deep in a subject. And then the second piece is I've never written anything out of expertise. It's always been out of an area that we're thinking through. And so you ask the question about Mission Drift. That's because I looked around and I saw a lot of organizations that had drifted from their founding purpose and mission and identity, and it wasn't that we had figured it out. If anything, I felt the same pull. In fact, there was one foundation that looked at Hope International, and this was kind of the one of the origin stories of the research. And they said, "We love the mission. We love the microenterprise development. We love the places where you serve, but..” they said, “because we're a publicly traded company, tone down the Jesus stuff, and then we'll be able to fund you, and then we'll be able to come alongside you.” And in that moment, I did not have the clarity that I have now at that moment, my initial response was, "How can we make this work? We have to make this work. We need those funds. Think of all the good that we can do. How do we find the creative way around it?” And I've come to realize that that money would have would have been a contributing factor to Hope losing its way, for Hope drifting, and so we never got the money. We actually started the research and came back and said, "Can't do that. That is at the core. It's who we are. It's what we do.” And I do look back at that moment and say that was the biggest gift that we've ever been given as an organization, and it didn't come with any check. It didn't come with any finances. It didn't come with any dollars, but it came with clarity of who we are and what we're all about as an organization. And I would say that was one of the defining moments that we had as an organization.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Wow! Yeah, that's a that's cool to hear that you say that. You're kind of… the book is helping you work through it because it's like I mean I feel like that with the podcast. I'm like the more I the more I do this, the more I read, the more I learn, the more I'm exposed to. And you know I use you know podcast to talk through the things you're learning, and it helps you clarify it in your mind. I can see how the writing does the same thing, but I'm… Yeah, I mean it's always easier to learn off someone else's mistakes. So I mean, it doesn't sound like you made the mistake necessarily, but it's but looking at other people's mistakes,

Peter Greer
Just to be clear, we've made plenty, I've made plenty, we've made plenty of mistakes, but that one I do think we were able to learn from others and identify it early on and make some significant changes to how we think about our work and governance and structure and what we measure, what we celebrate. There really were tangible ways that we were redirected as an organization.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Yeah. So, so I guess we could… I mean, we could talk about how this happens. Like, so I guess what is mission drift for people who haven't heard the term before? I'm sure people could piece together what they think it would mean, but like, what is that? How did you kind of define it? And then, and then, can you give some examples of organizations that have drifted and use that to kind of, yeah, kind of help us understand what are we talking about? Yeah, you mentioned your one example, which is pretty clear in my mind, but..

Peter Greer
Right, and one of the pieces that we wanted to do was to not feel like this is investigative journalism, that in meant anyway the stories that we tell would be breaking news of an organization. No, we wanted to look at a bigger period of time, and we wanted to focus on organizations that are not, you know, there's not like on the on the line. It's long ago that those decisions were made, and unfortunately, they are so easy to find. Higher education, health, non-governmental organizations, outreach to care for those in need. Every sector has so many organizations that were founded with a very clear and Christ-centered mission, and yet over time are doing something very different. So, one of the well-known ones is an institution that was created for higher education, and they said this: their mission statement was to be plainly instructed and consider well that the main end of your life and studies is to know God and Jesus Christ, they chose as their word and their logo to have veritas, which means truth, and then they talked about words around Christo et ecclesia. Until recently, that was on the diploma, so truth for Christ and the Church, and that institution is known as Harvard University, and it is not necessarily doing that.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Decidedly not that.

Peter Greer
Right. Right. Yeah, and in many ways, it's not like we're not saying there's not good things happening. It's just saying when you actually look at the founding purpose, if you look at the founding mission, and you look at what they're doing today, those two things are completely different. Another organization was called Christian Children's Fund, and that was an organization that was created by a minister to care for individuals. One of the pioneers in the child sponsorship kind of model, and grew, and then they ended up changing their name to Child Fund, and they're still doing good humanitarian work. But the interesting thing is when they changed the name from Christian Children's Fund, one of the phrases that was used in as they were talking about this is a board member summarized very succinctly: "This organization has nothing to do with Christianity.” But wait a minute, it's in the name. Wait a minute, it's in the founding story, but it was not in the current practice. And the president at the time said this: “An organization changes slowly, and then all of a sudden, you have to take a step back and see if the name accurately represents who you are.” And so, I think that is the most incredible definition of drift. That, in her own words, it's like it all of a sudden we realized, but long ago, decisions were made that separated the practices that they had, the organizational activities, from the core mission. And so we, I could go on and on and on. But we see this in healthcare. We see this in in in all kinds of different domains. But higher education, there's plenty more that I could share as well.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Yeah, that yeah, that makes sense. Is it is it a.. like, do you view that as a like.. it could be that the mission has drifted, or was it like a misnamed organization from the beginning?

Peter Greer
Yeah, my experience is it was not misnamed at the beginning. If you read the following documents, right? If you read the passions of the first generation, here's what Dr. Paul Tripp says. He says too often the passions of the first generation become the preferences of the second generation and become irrelevant to the third generation. That's what happens. And so, no, I don't think it was misnamed. I think it was the clear passion of like we want to make an impact. We want to be living out our faith. We want that to be the core of who we are, and yet slowly and over time, small compromises compounded by time lead to a very different destination.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Well, yeah. Well, that's a really good, yeah, that's a really good way to put it. Like, it makes you think: Are the principles actually principles, or are they preferences at this point? You know, yeah. So okay, so let's talk about. I guess how. What are some of the things that like we can we can see? How do we see this happening over time for like an organization drifting. We see the start and end point of, or you know, end point of like something like Harvard, where it's very obvious now. What were those things along the way? How did that.. how did that happen? What are we looking for?

Peter Greer
Yeah, you know, we were looking for like order of operations. What do we need to pay attention to most? And it seems like every story had different contributing factors, and I think that it's one individual talked about death by minnows as opposed to swallowed by a whale, meaning like it's not one big event, it's not one big issue, it's just these small compromises. The reason that's so significant is it means it's really hard to identify right now. It's easy to identify when you have enough time. It's very difficult to identify in the moment, and I think for all of us, my working assumption at this point, after studying this for a number of years, is every organization is drifting in some important way. The question is: Do we see it? Do we spot it? Are we identifying it? And are we correcting it? And so that's why I love this idea of drift. It's like there's currents that we're in, and if you just stop paying attention, you will go along with the current. The easiest thing to do is nothing, and I tell you that will not lead you to a place of more missional fidelity. It will not lead you to a place of more vibrancy in mission. It'll slowly pull you away to a very different destination. And I think your point is so well said. It's like in the long term we can see it. In the short term, we need to be aware. So, what are some of the things that we should be aware of?

Number one, clarity. If you want to have a question, go in the first five people you meet at your church or your organization or your school. If you're working in a place that has this, and you say this is important to who we are, first five people, and do you hear consistency? Do you hear clarity? And most of us think there's more clarity about who we are than is actually understood. And so clarity is number one. And then if there's not that clarity, got to figure out how do we live it out? How do we regularly connect it to the decisions that we're making?

And that's the point number two: is you got to have clarity of who you are, and then you've got to connect it to today, the decisions that you're making. And there are no neutral decisions. Everything can be looked at through a lens of mission, and that's why every single person on staff can play a role. Every single person can shape the way that you're connecting the mission to what you are, and so a decision. Our next strategic plan: Do you start with the opportunity and market assessment, or do you start with the mission as you're looking at the new product to launch? Is it this is going to be the cost? This is going to be the risk reward, or this is going to be the way that it connects to our mission, and so I really think the mission true organizations – they're vigilant, they're attentive, they're clear, and they connect that mission to the day-to-day decisions that they're making.

And then one other, just final thought is: and people are really important. Thinking longer term – if that's true that passions become preferences, become irrelevant, it means the way that we do staff development is mission critical, not just for the competency, not just for the technical ability to do the job. That's important in every organization, but to also be growing in the missional passion, the passion for who you are, what you are, not just the technical skills and abilities. So the organizations that stay on mission are hyper vigilant about staff development, and again, not just the technical components, but growing in the underlying yeah faith in action that is so essential for mission-driven organizations.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Wow! Yeah, there's so much in there. I think I think all four of those points are convicting for me, and I'm thinking about this from, I'm on I'm on our local school board, so we have we have a school run like community school, so not run by our church, but church you know a community basically spanning over several congregations, several different denominations, even, but yeah, the clarity to start just to start at the beginning, it isn't really super obvious when if you ask somebody what the mission of the school is, it's something that we've been working on at our school for the last couple years is making sure that people can actually express what the what the mission is, what the vision is. I think our vision statement a couple years ago was like 45 words or something. Like that probably isn't going to work. Yeah, there's there's a lot there. So I guess can we connect this to like can we think about drift in our organizations the same as we think about, you know, say cultural drift, like our culture's pulling us in a direction? Even like deformation in the church, like we're all, I mean, we're all tended toward evil. Or is there something that's more specific about like a culture or an intention of an organization that we can kind of control a little better than we can, you know, address culture.

Peter Greer
Yeah, I think the principles are the same. And going back to where we started the conversation, that's why I was so interested and initially, the conversation with the publisher was like, should we do a revised and expanded version of Mission Drift 10 years later? Right. And I feel like what we missed in the original book was just how important what happens in us is, and so that's where how leaders lose their way came from. It was basically like take those same principles, apply them to an individual, not just an organization. But the principles are the same; they really are in what we need to be vigilant, and the small steps and the small cracks in and what can we do to pay attention to them. But my favorite hymn, the line in any hymn, is from "Come Thou Fount of Every Blessing”, and it was written by Robert Robinson, and he has this line, and he says, "Prone to wander, Lord, I feel it prone to leave the God I love”, and I think He nailed it. I think He nailed it that we don't do the work if we don't believe that we could lose our way. And I would say the same thing for organizations. The worst thing you could do is have an assumption that future generations are going to stay on mission. To have the assumption that what's happening right now is going to happen, everyone, everyone, everyone that we studied that stayed on mission said we just didn't take it for granted. We knew our moment in time, one of our primary preoccupations was living out the mission and then passing it on to the next generation. And I think the same thing applies individually. Recognizing drift and how easy it is to drift means that we're going to maybe do some things differently in our life. We're going to pay attention to things. We're going to we're going to understand and identify where, not if, we're drifting. And again, by God's grace, make some minor course corrections as opposed to major issues that will form if we think we could just ignore this or it's going to go away on its own, that never tends to happen organizationally or individually.

Tyler Vanderwoude
So, how do you, say you're sitting on a board and you want to bring this up? I mean, aside from handing Mission Drift to everyone, handing them the book and saying, “Read this whole thing before we chat.” How do you avoid sounding like a kook when you're like, you could you could say, “Look, guys, this decision is going to completely derail this organization in 10 years.” Everyone will be like, “Wow, okay, settle down. The you know you don't need to lose sleep over this or you know settle down with the alarm bells. Like it's not that bad.” It's the same thing people say about culture. It's the same thing people say about anything that's deforming. I guess how can you frame those things to be like this is important, and then like yeah, how do you identify what those… you identified four key pieces.. how do you, when you're sitting in in a board chair, say this falls into this bucket? How do you find out what those things are? And yeah, like pay attention to them.

Peter Greer
Yeah, and this is the great thing that anyone in on a board or on a staff, anyone can have a positive influence. And I think about the power of questions. Oftentimes, my experience is, especially in the early compromises, it's not because people are trying to take the organization – we're going to have a coup, and we're going to take it in a different direction. Oftentimes, it's just benign neglect, as opposed to willful or intentional steering. It's just like we just stopped paying attention. So I would say, in the early stages of drift, the power of a question – that's a really interesting idea. How does that connect to the core of who we are as an organization? Like questions that can start to weave in the mission. That person seems wonderfully technically qualified, but can you tell me a little bit more about how his or her, like who she is or who he is, aligns with the mission of what we're all about as an organization. That's great that person is interested in being in our board. What do we know about that person's commitment to the core foundational mission of who we are as an organization? And so I would say in the early stages, because it's not most of the time like willful, intentional. I just think that's a powerful way. Now, the further you go down, the further entrenched there are. Yet, it does not get easier to raise these issues. So, maybe that will be my sober assessment: is the sooner you make course corrections, the less painful they tend to be. The more you ignore, the more you grow with some faulty implementation of that core mission. The more painful it is to try and get back. And so I would just say, like, pay attention wherever you are. Like right now is a great day. It's that classic one. Like, when's the right time to plant a tree? 50 years ago. The second best time? Today! So in a similar way, like focus on that mission, come back and clarify and connect it to the decisions that are being made.

Tyler Vanderwoude
So if we talk about clarifying a mission, like what are some tools I guess that we people can use to make a mission? Because I would say, like I'm talking again from a school board perspective, we have a mission. If you ask the board, I mean, you would get similar answers. I would think, and again to your point, like if you have good people, they're all aligned if you really press them on these things, but yeah, if you go down the road, they're not maybe all aligned, you know exactly. So, what are some things that you can use to clarify that? Like, how do you how do you get that understanding and like pin it in like you know the present so that you have that for the future?

Peter Greer
Yeah. So there's a lot of creative exercises and tools and ways and this is not dodging your question, but my honest answer is it actually doesn't matter too much which of the tools because they all accomplish the same thing, elevating the mission, reminding us of the mission, connecting the mission to what we do, and I don't think it's yeah. There's only one way to do that. So if you want some specific tools, you can go to missiondrift.com. We created a toolkit. There's a workbook that's there. It's called the Mission True Workbook. That's available for free if anyone wants to try it. Put these ideas into practice, but I don't think there's a wrong way to intentionally see, celebrate the mission that you have. And then, in terms of clarification, this is the other piece that I think sometimes people think we're saying something different. But I'm not opposed to change. The world is changing. The models change. Education changes. The reality is the world is changing. The reason why I resonate with the idea of drift is because drift is just going along without intentionality. And I would say for a board, you have to understand who you are. But that's not to say there's not significant moments or big decisions about model and operating and systems and change. There are big changes happening in our world. We need to, but the question is, when we make those decisions, when we make those changes, is it to become a truer version of ourselves or to walk away? Is it to hold on to the core, or is it to let go of what is most important? And I like how Fred Smith he says, you know, it's oftentimes like selling the family heirlooms for a little more cash. Those things that are just so precious that right now we feel like ah, we just are going to sell them. I think a lot of times people. I wish I could have that back, and I know hearing stories there of some that have seen mission drift, experienced mission drift. They're like, "Oh, I wish we could go back to that decision.” And that's really what we're trying to do is just be aware of how prevalent mission drift is, know who you are, and then connect that to the decisions that you are making in your life and in your leadership.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Yeah. Okay. So that's helpful. So there's not really a specific tool. Is there a format? I guess maybe not specific format, but is there like what would a what does a good mission look like? Is there a is there like if I have a vision statement, I have a mission statement. Is that enough, or is it like? Do you put like core values down? Do you do you do you specify it very particularly? Like I think there's examples in the book of even like actionable items like having to the way to change the mission would have to be over the course of many years with you know unanimous approval from the board, those types of things. Like, what does a specific, what does a mission look like? Because I'm, I'm thinking, it's not always that it would be with I guess with bad intentions or with like just because someone's asleep at the wheel that it would drift. Like I'm thinking some of the organizations that I've been a part of or heard of, the next generation it's not necessarily a preference, but they actually look at the mission and they redefine it because maybe because of cultural drift, but also maybe they thought that the I guess the strategy of the mission wasn't being executed well, or even that the mission was set up properly to begin with, they no longer necessarily value the things that the founders valued. If I give you an example, like so, if you have a if we have a school that's like a community school that's you know aligned with the church, certain churches, you might two generations down the road have a crop of leaders who doesn't think that that's actually a Christian thing to be doing to have maybe a more insular school and would like to open it up to everybody, and there then your entire I mean it's the mission is completely different. It redefines the organization. So, is there a way that you can build that mission so that that cannot happen, or is that a valuable thing to be doing?

Peter Greer
Yeah. So, again, I just highly, highly, highly recommend separating the mission from the means and having super clarity and saying what are the things that are most important, and I think to clarify that, one of the pieces that we do is the 50-year test. You come back in 50 years. What would break your heart if it's lost? And assume 50 years, the world is going to change a lot in the next 50 years, right?

Tyler Vanderwoude
Two years!

Peter Greer
Yeah, exactly. But you don't then, given that, when you think about education, you're not going to be talking about what happens in the current mode of technology. Like you're going to be talking about more core, fundamental things about who you are, what you are trying to do in the school and in the world, and in a similar way, I think that 50-year test it clarifies what do you still hope to be true. And then I know there's a bunch of organizations put it in the ground, put it in the ground, do that time capsule, write a letter to the future leaders of that organization, and just pass it on to future leaders. That might be one way to start. And then for me, the other piece is just simple clarity. There is a negative return on complexity when it comes to mission. The simpler you can make it, the more you can focus on the essence, on the core, the more likely it is that it's going to be seen and understood and implemented.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Yeah, you mentioned Simon Sinek in the in the book. Yeah, and I guess that book. I mean, I read that book years ago too, probably around the same time I read Mission Drift. But that that idea, I guess there's also an exercise and a whole maybe a whole other organization that goes along with that to clarify that is that is that pretty similar like doing something like that Y exercise to come up with I think it's pretty short and punchy right.

Peter Greer
Yep, exactly right.

Tyler Vanderwoude
What that is so is that is that good enough like that little piece of. Wording like four or five words that, or is it like is it something deeper where you have to kind of like also have some you know fine print? It feels like you should have a contract, right?

Peter Greer
Right, right. No, and that's where you know you reference this already, but we wanted to make this as difficult as possible to change the who we are, the primary purpose. Why do we exist? So again, it's that why question, not the what. And so we have that system, and you cannot change the primary purpose of the organization without unanimous vote from the board directors in three separate years. That slows down the decision making. Unanimous vote in three separate years, and that's with intentionality because you don't want to have just one meeting. You're like, hey, we're facing this crisis. If we only change this, we can therefore, and yet it's not impossible. You can change the mission. It just is, “Are you really sure? Are you really sure you want to change the mission? Tell me more. Let's slow this down.’” And that has been really helpful, I think. But again, that's differentiating mission from means.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Yeah. How does that work with? I guess like so, like charitable, a lot of charitable organizations are run specifically by the board, obviously with input from donors or other people who have kind of a stake in the game. But what about something where there's like a society running it, or there's like is there is that just another layer that makes it harder to change things or harder to pivot from the from the mission, or I mean, or that could that be another danger where you know the society is actually pulling the board?

Peter Greer
Yeah, again, not to be too alarmist, but there's all kinds of ways for an organization to drift, and who's making the decisions? Who has that? And what I find so interesting is most boards of directors understand their fiduciary responsibility. They understand they need to have an audit committee, and they know their responsibility. But you know what? Most boards don't understand? Their primary job is to ensure that the organization does and stays on mission, and yet there's not often clarity on that, and so we disconnect over time. And the boards that help an organization stay on mission, they're creative. They're like, let's make sure we read that mission statement before we do anything. Let's make sure before that decision is made, we pray about it. Give space to listen and see what happens. And the organizations that stay on mission, they understand that one of the core, if not the core, responsibility they have is not just evaluate the CEO, but make sure that the organization is staying on mission. And again, even that is an example. When the CEO or president or executive director is evaluated, are they evaluated for growth numbers, metric numbers, or missional impact? That will guide decisions that will change behaviors. And most of the time, we drift towards what is easiest to measure, which is growth in revenue and number of people served, as opposed to also saying, "But what is the impact? What is the way that we're living out the mission? Those are questions that are harder to assess, but I think over time more important if you want to have an organization that is anchored to its mission.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Oh yeah, that's a really good point. Yeah, you bring it up in the in the book too. That's um, yeah, what you measure is kind of what you what you're gonna care about, and a lot of times that's fiscal. You know, you know what? Yeah, how much revenue we bringing in? Do we meet in budget, or what kind of impact do we have? How many? And it's always a number based because that's the easiest thing to track. But you know, how many you know people did we impact along the way? Yeah, and you get, I guess, you get kind of distracted by like growth or whatever. So yeah, that's and then you talk you talked about a way to you know kind of create those metrics for the things that matter. So I think that's a really cool thing to consider if you're in that position. How does you mentioned people like the staff and the board? I guess what do you say to people who struggle to find people to join their organization? Whether staff like there's just a shortage of labor, or you know the board members, there's not just like you know clamoring to be on your board. You're just so tempted to take the first person available who has you know three hours available in their week. Like, what do you want to just say to those people?

Peter Greer
Availability is great, but availability is insufficient, right? I mean, if you want to stay on mission, you've got to have people that believe in the mission, and so compromise in the board is unwise. So in that sort of a situation, you feel like you must have a board. Maybe you don't have to have it quite so large. And I would rather have five people that are on mission than 15 people that have 7 that are on mission, like that's not a net positive. That is a net negative. You got to go 100% for those people that believe in the mission of the organization who are going to be on the board of directors. So, yeah, maybe slow down. Maybe state when you feel like you might be tempted to compromise, and then figure out what is your assessment and onboarding process, and how much of that is connected to what it is that you hope to protect and to preserve as an organization. So again, this is not this is not earth shattering research. It makes sense, but it's just we aren't paying attention. It's just we feel the urgency, we feel the need, and we justify small compromises and woefully underestimate the impact that they're going to have on the organization over time.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Yeah, and any bad decision there can snowball, like you said. Like if you have seven, if you're outnumbered on the board with people who don't care about the mission, but even if you have two or three, you run a staff. Even it just turns into a culture of not, you know, that keeping that mission front and center. And that I like, I like the point you raised about reading the mission at the beginning of the at the beginning of the meetings. I think that came from an example in your book. Can you share a couple examples from the book, or you know that you've seen since writing it of organizations that are doing this really well, and like what they're like what they're doing different than organizations that are just kind of hoping for the best?

Peter Greer
Yeah, no, that example you're referencing is the Kroll Trust, and so the founder of Quaker Oats, his name is Henry Kroll, and he saw that mission drift was happening, and so he said, "For my estate, for the resources,” he was a titan of industry, and he said, “I want to make sure that these resources are used in the long-term alignment of what I believe matters most.” And so he created a charter, and that charter must be read before the meeting begins and I think that is a great practice, and it really was born out of his awareness of just how easy it is to drift. And so they make the decisions in alignment with that decision. He went further in that, in that he said, "And I know family. I love my family, but I want to make sure I'm not creating a family board. I want to make sure I'm creating a missionally aligned board.” And so he was creative in how individuals were invited to join the board. I thought that's really interesting. And for him, it was like blood relationship is insufficient. We got to make sure that people are vetted for their not just family relationships, but vetted for their missional alignment. So that's one example. I also just love the way that Alec Hill at Intervarsity he was so intentional about pouring into these cohorts of future leaders, and his example stands out to me as someone who is like recognizing that his time was temporary. He was interim in his role and recognized that he needed to be pouring into future generations. One individual talked about the know-how and the know-who, and really just wanting to make sure the connections were made, and that requires a posture of humility, a posture of mission first, and I could go on, but those are some that come to mind.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Yeah, those. Yeah, it's cool. It's cool to see guys with that intention. Do people have a fear that when they do something like that, that you know their organization will be insufferable to work for or work with, or a fear that maybe there's not enough people that align specifically with what their what their position is? That yeah, their organization is not going to improve. Is that I mean a way that you know the mission is kind of pushed aside?

Peter Greer
Yeah, probably answer D. All of the above.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Always seem to be! Yeah, that makes sense. It's like, yeah. But if you don't do it, then you you just don't have an organization in 50 years. So I think that 50 year test is a it's a real thing to keep in mind.

Peter Greer
Yeah, I think the benefit, right, is 50 years. It's a long enough time horizon that I can do the math. I'm not going to be doing my job in 50 years, so it's intentionally extending beyond what most people would consider their time, their tenure with a particular organization.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Is that a struggle people have to think past their own time? I mean, you serve on a board maybe you know three to six years, 10 years, and maybe you can keep the mission in mind for that period of time. But do people do a good enough job when they're founding an organization or being a part of an organization, thinking like, or is it a struggle to be like, well, I don't even feel like this is going to exist past my lifetime. That you know, or you're, or maybe you're solving problems so you know that feel so critical in the moment that it doesn't feel like there is a future.

Peter Greer
Yeah, and again, I just feel like it's benign neglect. I just think it's you're not thinking about it because when you show up, what is your what are you thinking about? Today, these are the decisions that we need to make. Today, these are the pain points. Today, this is the urgency that we have around these items, and in the thinking about, I think it's the Covey quadrants, but thinking about the important and not urgent, those are the most difficult things to actually prioritize. I know it's important, but it just doesn't feel urgent right now, and therefore we kick the can down the road. Therefore, we don't deal with the things that we need to deal with. We think there's going to be a future day when we're going to show up and have nothing else to do other than wrestle through. And my experience is that day never comes. There's always something that feels urgent and timely, and so we don't do the work of extending our time horizon a little bit longer.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Anyone who has woken up for work more than three times knows that that's not true. I guess it's hard to feel right because you're like, oh, if we can only just get these three things off our plate, you know, these two things are urgent, and yeah, it's hard to make time for that that big picture thinking. But what are some what are some I guess responsibilities if you're not say part of an organization, but you donate or you're, yeah, you're funding an organization. What are some of the things that that donors can do to help keep an organization on mission, not even being part of the day to day?

Peter Greer
I think the donors way underestimate the role and influence that they could have, because what donors sometimes think is I'm just giving the money and then let them go. But I actually don't think that's the type of engaged philanthropy that's going to help organizations stay on mission. I love that there's multiple times in my life, in my career, where people have reached out after I've sent something or said something, and said, "Hey, Peter, that was nice, but you forgot what was most important”, and they called me out, and they were totally right on the times that I did not, with clarity, talk about the core of who we are and the mission that we have, and my only response to them is thank you. Keep doing it. And the irony is, there is great influence of funding, but oftentimes it's the sources of secularization. I get way more questions on the other side of saying we'd love to do this matching grant, but you are a Christian organization and looks like you require a statement of faith of your staff, therefore, we can't fund you. And I feel the tension. It's like, “Oh, if we would just soften that, we could get more money.” And so there is a pull towards secularization in funding. And I wish that people who cared about the mission recognized the pull and influence that they could have in the opposite direction. Obviously, doing it gracefully and doing it with kindness, but as Proverbs 27:17 says, “Wounds from a friend can be trusted”, and so maybe we have some friends that say, "Hey, I think that you might be slowly moving away from what seems to matter most. Let's talk about that.”

Tyler Vanderwoude
How do you determine what matters most? Because somebody will say that you're, if you could take that money and have more impact, like what are you trying to do? So, how do you define what that should be? I guess it's kind of organization by organization and what your goal is. But I guess as a leader in a Christian organization, as a Christian leader in a Christian organization, how do you how do you think through that for Hope International and all the things that you've done? Like, how narrowly do you define that the Christian-ness of your organization in order to like if somebody from a yeah if someone from not a Christian organization but someone who's sympathetic works alongside you. Do you take money from a Catholic organization and not a Protestant organization? Like, there's a different, I guess there's different levels of this. Like, how specifically do you try to narrow that focus? And or is it kind of on a case by case?

Peter Greeer
Yeah, yeah. For me, the principle is: Do they know who we are and what we're about, and I think it's not loving or honest to not share about who you are as an organization, and to have two different marketing materials. This one talks about mission. This one doesn't talk about it. That doesn't feel genuine to me. So we have individuals that support us that love the microenterprise, and they know who we are and what we do. But that's not necessarily… they like the outcomes that we're seeing, and they choose to fund us anyway. But they're not surprised. There's never going to be a moment that they're going to see something online or hear something that I'm going to say on this podcast, and say, I had no idea that we were trying to our mission statement, as it says, as we proclaim and live the gospel. Like that shouldn't be a surprise or secret. And so to me, the onus of responsibility is on the organization. Be clear who you are internally and externally. Be clear on who you are, and don't be willing to compromise. And I think that's really the sensitivity for me is if I feel like I care more about the money than the mission, I have lost my order of operations, I have lost the order of prioritization, and hopefully have friends internally and externally that will call me out when that happens.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Oh, that's yeah, that's super wise. How does how does this work for I guess non charitable organizations? Like trying to think of all the different types of organizations. Like we, my co-host Lucas and I we run a business and we have core values. We have them on our wall. I think they're Christian core values. We meet with our staff. We you know we pray before our you know staff dinners and things like that. But we don't we don't have an intentional Christian mission. We're a for profit door company, so how does that work with for profit companies? And can we apply the same thing to organizations whose main goal isn't ministry, but is you know, selling a door.

Peter Greer
I would say the answer is yes, because it doesn't matter what the company is, doesn't matter what the tax status is of an organization, whether it's for profit or nonprofit. There are core things that you want to be true, and the level of what do we talk about clarity and intentionality, and it's going to look a little bit different, and there's going to be different opportunities and challenges in both of them, but I don't think it changes any of the core components of: Do you know who you are? Do you know what you value, and how are you living that out? So for you and the values that you have, great to put them on a wall. What are you doing? What are you doing to live them out? And would you be willing to compromise on one of those core values if it means a new order that's going to increase revenue from X to Y, and the mission-driven organizations? They just have clarity, intentionality, and they know what's most important to them, so I would say you probably could go through a pretty interesting exercise personally on the business side, and you might find more alignment in this conversation than just the school or the nonprofit that you're engaged with as well.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Yeah, it's interesting. Yeah, like I mean, our listeners will be engaged in all sorts of things, businesses, and yeah, obviously schools and churches and all sorts of organizations. We're part of the Dutch Reformed community in in Canada here, and there's organizations for everything we've got up and down. So, and I know that this actually this book has been really impactful. Our executive director at Reformed Perspective is Mark Penninga. He speaks highly of this book. He used it at ARPA, which is an organization for Association for Reformed Political Action in Canada. They had this. They actually used a bunch of the tips from the book to make sure their mission doesn't drift. And things like that, so it's been impactful already. I think just in terms of the business, the struggle is looking at in other places is um, I'm not giving I'm not going to be given money with uh with strings attached in the same obvious manner, I guess, right. So maybe it takes a little more discernment to decide on, yeah, are the you know values aligned with my with my customer? It's a lot more. Yeah, it feels more long term customer value equation than it feels like an immediate mission, you know, drifting type of experience. But we do use it a lot with our staff, like our core, our core values. Like we're not willing to compromise on that. I think that's, I think that's even more common though in the secular world to keep things on mission or keep an organization on track the way that they think they should be. How else can we apply? Like you have a you have the book behind you about personally, you know, looking at this in your personal life. What where are some things that we can apply this? Can we apply this to the you know I don't know if we can call it like the mission of our families or things like that. Like are there other places where we can consider this?

Peter Greer
So we already mentioned this book came out 10 years ago. I've been writing ever since, and I had one friend say, "Peter, you have written, but every book connects to Mission Drift,”and I don't think they're wrong. I actually put this into ChatGPT. I say, "Create a diagram of all the books that I've been a part of, and in the center it says “mission, mission/purpose”, and then it connects in different ways in different groupings. And I don't think it's wrong. We did a book called Board and CEO, and it's all about how mission is applied to governance. We did a fundraising book, and it's like how mission applies to these relationships. And we did one called Rooting for Rivals. And the more you have clarity on your mission, the more you're going to be able to enter into partnerships with others and collaborate on things that are beyond yourself, and how leaders lose their way. It's like unless you know what your personal mission is, you are very likely to drift, and that's true on a family level. So I don't know. Maybe I only have one book in me, but I've had different covers. But it's true. Like it really, I do believe that it connects to everything.

Tyler Vanderwoude
It's such a saturating idea.

Peter Greer
Yeah, yeah.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Have you done any of this in in not just in the organizations, but like, do you do any exercises with your staff to make sure they're on mission, or even with your family,

Peter Greer
Oh, all of the above. And again, that's the answer. It's if drift is small compromises compounded by time, then the way to stay mission true is small shifts back to your mission compounded by time. It's like the regular course corrections, and I absolutely believe that this has personal implications. One of the other things we found in how leaders lose their way is that most leaders who drift in their life don't have anyone in their life who can help them see when and where drift is happening, and so they pretend it's not there. They stuff it down, and that is utterly lethal. They don't have anyone. They don't have any time to slow down. And I love in Psalm 139 It says, "Search me and know me. Show me if there's any...” And I just think our ability to slow down personally and organizationally to look around and say where, not if, drifting might be happening; where, not if, there might be a slow slide towards a lukewarm attitude or approach; where in our lives we might have lost sight of what is most important, and I think that requires a little bit of courage and a little bit of slowing down to have those types of conversations. So yeah, I think real world implications, personally and organisationally, but it requires courage and it requires a different pace and requires an awareness of how easy it is for drift to happen and how rare it is for organizations to really have long term faithfulness in the same direction.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Well, like wow, yeah. Personally, have you taken, do you take time regularly to kind of sit in that, like to understand, uh, yeah, what your goals are? Have you written down like a mission statement for yourself, or is it like something that you know you kind of do through your life to reassess and make sure that you're doing that.

Peter Greer
Short answer: Yes. My birthday is coming up very soon, and one of the things that I have on my calendar on my birthday is going to sound maybe a little bit odd, but I was so struck by watching people that have gone before me and listening to the words that were spoken at their celebration of life, and I don't know anything that recalibrates us faster than remembering to number our days. And so this is odd, but on my birthday, you know what I do? 7:00 a.m. on my calendar, I read a eulogy that I wrote about myself.

Tyler Vanderwoude
That does sound our but also, I could totally see the value.

Peter Greer
I mean, some people are just going to absolutely say that's ridiculous. But I tell you, if you don't have clarity of what matters most, you're not going to know where you're drifting. And so I read those words, and then I look where in my life do I need to recalibrate? Where in my life do I need to make some micro, hopefully micro course corrections? And again, that's just true personally and organizationally. See the drift, spot the drift, don't ignore the drift. And the sooner you see it, the easier it is to address.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Wow! Yeah, how do you see that in your personal life? Like, I mean, maybe you're not a good example because you've thought about this for 15 years now. But like, would you see it coming up? Or I mean, I'm starting to think of like if you do have a conflict of your own mission personally, and you're not really aligning your actions or what you're doing every day with what you believe you should be doing. Like if you if you read a eulogy at the end of every day and you were sad about what you did in that day because it didn't align with what you hope would be said at your funeral, what like do you not end up with like a mental health crisis, like where you're like, “I can't go on living the way I'm living”?Like, is that is does that contribute to people's yeah directionlessness, I guess?

Peter Greer
Ah, it's so interesting.

Tyler Vanderwoude
At some point, like you must feel like you're just floating, like you're just you're just you're just going through the things that are put in front of you, but you don't really have anything to move yourself to.

Peter Greeer
Oh, I feel the exact opposite. I feel like most days there's a fog or a haze because you're just in the whirlwind of all the activities that you need to do today, and I think it's the exact opposite that looking at that point on the horizon brings focus, brings clarity, brings alignment, and so I've experienced it the exact opposite.

Tyler Vanderwoude
If you, yeah, if I guess if you're like you almost if you do it in the morning, you would have that point to look at. If you're just doing it always retroactively and saying “I'm sad, I can't actually I'm not meeting that that standard or that goal.”

Peter Greer
Oh, and that's where I just feel like the other thing that is so matched with this is this is not like a try harder, do better message. It's like recognize where drift happens, and what I believe is that I serve a God who says my mercy is new every single morning. You wake up today, new mercy, new grace, amazing grace. How sweet the sound, right? And so, I think those two things of understanding how much I drift does not lead to some sort of self, you know, feeling terrible about myself. I think understanding just how much we're loved, just how much we're forgiven – that does the exact opposite. That reclarifies, that re-motivates, that recenters, and so those two things can come together. And that's why I love. We talked about the hymn Come, the fan of every blessing: Prone to wander, Lord, I feel it. Yeah, I drifted yesterday, and I'm going to drift today. Here's my heart, Lord, take and seal it. Like here we go. Show me the way. Show me the way today, and help me to, yeah, take that next step. So I don't know, I don't find it demoralizing. I find it clarifying, and maybe that would be different if it was devoid of grace. If drift led to just like, oh, I'm so terrible, but drift that leads us to grace is an incredible gift in equipping, empowering us to take that next step today in what we can do to live out that mission.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Yeah, that's so true. I think a lot of times we just feel like it's like a work harder and be smarter. Like, what do you, if you're drifting, well, then we should have just worked harder, or we should have we should have done something different. But yeah, it's not like you can't do it. I think it's not if you yeah. Walking through the book, you give you also have some questions at the end of every chapter that that kind of like help you to think through. I thought that was a really cool, I thought that was a really good touch for the book to help. Like it brings it to life to show you like here are the things you could be asking about your own organization, your own situation.

Peter Greer
I've had one compliment that I really appreciated from someone who had read a couple of the books, and the individual said, "I appreciate that they're practical”, and I think part of the reason for that is because we're not writing about just ideas in theory. These are practical because we're trying to live them out. Like we, by our own admission, I don't know how to stay on mission and not drift. Like, yeah, I mean we're all trying to do it. So it's what are the tools? What are the techniques? What are the approaches? What's going to help put these ideas into practice? And my experience is it's not that we don't know what to do. It's just really hard to then actually do it. And so at the end of every chapter, those reflections or exercises or the workbook or whatever, there's a all of those are designed to put ideas into practice that I think is most of the time where we either stay on mission or where we slowly drift.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Yeah, so I'm encouraging it to people. I mean, people should definitely go read the book, read all your books. Yeah, it take a while because there's lots, but the questions, like I felt the same way. I was like, these are all you're reading through them, like you know, as if you're just reading them and you're not, you know, answering them as you go. You're reading them. You're like, oh, that's a good question to ask in my situation. Oh, that's a good question to ask, and you just you just keeps going through the list. But it again, it makes it so practical that there's not a lot of there's not a lot of barrier if you're struggling with this or you're seeing a little bit of this like I would encourage get this book and just go through these questions even and ask them about your organization because they it's not something where you have to be like you know the smartest guy in the world to try to figure it out like it's just a matter of asking the right questions and doing it continually, I think, like basically at any point you are at, it can it can be valuable. So that's yeah, it's really cool. Trying to think if we've missed anything. Otherwise, I'm like, I'm trying to picture how to do this in my own life, like just to bring this into like, if I can make a mission statement for myself, it would also help me guide you know the organizations I'm a part of or donating to or, but yeah, is that I gotta give that some more thought. I gotta pick up the book how leaders lose their way. That’s what I'm coming out with.

Peter Greer
Can't wait to hear what you come up with. No, that's great. So thanks. I mean, so kind. But it is like a journey that we're on, and I think just regularly reminding each other. Like every time I talk about this, I'm like, oh, I need to refocus on that, or that's an area to lean more into, or focus more on. So no, I think we need these regular reminders of what matters most, and how do we how do we live today in light of that?

Tyler Vanderwoude
Yeah, and if you're a leader, this is a book you could read every year, and remind yourself. But I guess I guess one more question we had them we talked a little bit about change, and I guess this is one of the things that people ask about is like, well, if I can't if my mission can't drift, then how does it change? Like, how can I change it? And then, I guess, what are some good examples of why it would change? Like, you mentioned cultural things, but like a lot of times you think about that in terms of drift. The culture moved. You know, we should be moving with the culture. Like, that's no, no, no. Let's not move with the culture. But there's obviously technological things. Like, what are some of the reasons why you might make a sudden shift?

Peter Greer
Oh, I mean, I think about just some of the ways for Hope International that we're wrestling with that right now is some of the things that we can do can now be automated, and that's great. That's more efficient. Some of the things we can do can actually replace all human connection with the people that we serve. For our theory of change, for our mission, if we lose personal connection, we lose the opportunity for outreach and discipleship that doesn't work with us. That approach doesn't matter if there's a technological solution if it replaces the importance of life on life. So that changes what we do and how we… So we're looking for more efficiency, but we're not looking for replacement. And that would be different if we were just trying to maximize the financial aspect of who we are and what we do, but that's not what we're trying to maximize. We're trying to maximize the way that we share Christ's love, and that requires a physical embodiment, life on life. And so, anyway, that's one very small example of right now some of the ways that we're thinking through this.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Oh yeah, that's a great example. I mean, that's like the example, like the you know, that's the biggest change right now, right? AI can do everything, but yeah, I guess same thing with the school. It gets me thinking about the school. You can, AI can educate your kids, but can it really do the thing that your school is meant to do? You know, you can you can have a daycare or any kind of any kind of thing, but it's yeah. There's definitely technology to push back on if you really believe in your mission. Wow, yeah, no, that's a great example. I'll I'm gonna have to grab some more of your books, and I'm gonna need to join the web that you've created around this this this topic, the mission. So, but I really appreciate your time. I think this is this is great. I don't know if there's anything you have to add to the conversation other than go buy all the books.

Peter Greer
Well, no, just to say so great to have the conversation with you, and love the way that you're living out your mission at work and in the places where you serve as well, so really appreciate the conversation so much.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Thanks, Peter. Yeah, really appreciate you joining us. This opportunity to talk to you guys. All the best with Hope International. All that you do with microfinancing and you know serving those in yeah in in poorer states than we are in in you know Canada and the States. So you know, really appreciate all your work there too.

Peter Greer
Right.

Tyler Vanderwoude
Thanks so much. Thanks everyone for listening. Until next time, keep having real talk.

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The slippery slope is real

Some weeks ago I wrote a piece about a San Francisco pastor, Fred Harrell, who had recently attacked the doctrine of penal substitutionary atonement. In doing so, I made a connection between Harrell's prior shifts  – first, adopting the ordination of women and, second, endorsing homosexual relations – and his most recent movement away from the clear teaching of God's Word. My conclusion was to posit this as evidence of a slippery slope, further noting that in our cultural moment the slippery slope is usually entered at the point of ordaining women to office in the church. It would be an understatement to observe that this post touched a raw nerve for some readers. (One well-known pastor wrote me privately to accuse me of being schismatic. It is a feature of our times, I am afraid, that to defend the consensus on which we have built unity is to be labeled as divisive.) Of the different reactions one that most surprised me was a denial that there is validity to the idea of slippery slopes. My initial response to this criticism is to marvel that people can take this position in light of recent church history. Still, the topic is important enough that I think it good to defend the reality of the slippery slope. Why is the slope slippery? First, let me define what I mean in referring to the slippery slope. The slippery slope simply notes that those who remove the restraint against worldly conformity place themselves in peril of further and more damaging accommodations. The slope becomes slippery when the source of friction is removed. Far from the logical fallacy of which it is charged, there is a logical basis for the slippery slope argument: when the authority of Scripture is yielded to cultural demands, the loss of that authority renders us vulnerable to further cultural demands. Herein lies the wisdom of Scripture: "If the foundations are destroyed, what can the righteous do?" (Ps. 11:3). Indeed, the very first Psalm begins with a portrayal of the slippery slope, charting a progression from "the counsel of the wicked" to "the way of sinners" and ultimately to "the seat of scoffers" (Ps. 1:1). That it’s slippery doesn’t mean everyone slides In making these observations, I do not mean that anyone who changes his or her view in the direction of cultural preferences is irrevocably bound to further concessions. It is blessedly true that people and churches have taken a perilous step to the left (or right) and later reconsidered, and to note examples of this happening does not prove that their previous action had not been imperiled. It is because the slippery slope can be escaped by recommitting to Scripture that warnings of peril are of value. Moreover, I do not mean to suggest that those who make any concessions to culture over Scripture have already abandoned the atonement of Christ. I am suggesting, however, that the slippery slope is...well, slippery. Those who remove traction from their feet may very well slide much further than they first thought possible. As Fred Harrell's progression illustrates – together with those of the PC(USA), CRC, RCA, Church of Scotland, and other denominations – the abandonment of clear biblical teaching at one cultural pressure-point (women's ordination), imperils us with further capitulations (homosexual acceptance), and if unchecked will find itself challenged to avoid "touching the Jesus Box" (i.e. denying even the resurrection of our Savior). It starts with women’s ordination Second, I noted that in our time, the slippery slope is usually entered at the point of women's ordination. This tendency is not surprising, since the assault of secular culture against the Bible is most tenaciously focused on gender and sexuality. To uphold biblical gender norms, including the Bible's clear teaching on male-only ordination is the single most inflammatory position that Christians may hold in our culture. For this reason, it is hard to find an example in recent history when a Christian leader or church denomination moved from biblical conservatism to unbiblical cultural conformity when the slide did not begin with the ordination of women to church office. It stands to reason, then, that we should avoid thinking that we can conform to the worldly demands regarding gender and avoid further accommodations of greater significance. What about women deacons? This brings me to the topic of women deacons. Several critics accused me of asserting that to support the ordination of women to the office of deacon is to abandon the gospel. This response is noteworthy because I made no mention of women deacons in my original post. I will admit, however, to being unpersuaded that the move to ordain women deacons in the PCA is unrelated to a broader agenda of cultural accommodation. In saying this, I do not mean to question the sincerity of those individuals who advocate the position that women should hold the office of deacon. But I would note the growing tendency among these same persons to employ women in roles that are as associated with the office of elder. For example, in many churches pastored by ministers who are supportive of the ordination of women deacons, women are placed in the pulpit during worship services for the public reading of Scripture and to offer the congregational prayer. Women are assigned to distribute the elements of the Lord's Supper. These are functions associated with the office of elders, not deacons. Moreover, word has recently come that pressure is being exerted in one PCA presbytery to install a woman as its stated clerk, making her a member of a court composed exclusively of ruling and teaching elders. Where is the outcry against these tendencies from those who say that they are only wishing to ordain women as deacons? Conclusion The slippery slope, then, is real. And the sole restraint against it – against all our sin and tendency to compromise – is our obedience to the voice of the Spirit of Christ speaking in Holy Scripture. Therefore, the counsel given by Jeremiah at another moment of cultural of peril seems urgent: Stand by the crossroads, and look and ask for the ancient paths, where the good way is; and walk in it, and find rest for your souls (Jer. 6:16). In this way alone will we navigate the perils of our times, fortifying our fidelity to Christ. This article was originally published in the Sept/Oct 2017 issue of the magazine. Rev. Richard D. Phillips has been the Senior Minister of Second Presbyterian Church in Greenville, South Carolina (PCA) since July 2007. A version of this article first appeared on Alliance for Confessing Evangelical’s Reformation 21 blog under the title “Standing Firm on the Slippery Slope.” It has been reprinted here with permission....

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A theology of cleaning?

Solomon was a wise man. But as a king, he passed over some vivid illustrations in the futility chapter of Ecclesiastes. Allow me to add the mother’s version of “chasing after wind”: The dishes are cleared and hasten back to where they lie dirty. The laundry is washed, and returns to the dirty hamper – around and around goes the laundry, and on its circuit it returns. The children’s stomachs are not satisfied with lunch, nor their appetites with supper. Vanity of vanities… I don’t know how Solomon would respond to that, but honestly, as I chase after my three small whirlwinds with vacuum and cloth in hand, I’m overwhelmed by the futility of it all. I’d far rather be reading something… or making something … or doing something “important,” something better than this mindless pecking away at dirt. I needed a theology for cleaning. So, between the rubbing and scrubbing, I’ve been doing a bit of reading. I’ve found some good news for us belabored housewives: cleaning is kingdom work! Chipping away at that eternal pileup of toys in the living room, dirty laundry on the floor and handprints on the walls is eternal stuff because God is glorified by our cleaning. And in a small way, we work alongside Him in redeeming and restoring this broken world. Let’s dive in… God is pleased with our work We worship a God who loves cleanliness. If you don’t believe me, have a peek at the book of Leviticus, which sparkles and squeaks right down to the quarantining of moldy fabric (Lev. 13:47-59). Yet God Himself cursed work in the Garden of Eden, filling it with thorns and thistles... and dust, dirt, and ick. Even in a world of cursed ground, work – and housework – is also a blessing. God blessed Adam and Eve with a job in the Garden of Eden. When we serve Him joyfully and cheerfully, be it ever so mindless a job, we glorify Him through it. I like to picture our heavenly Father, smiling and pleased with me as I do battle with bathtub scum. Will my husband notice our scrubbed tub? Probably not, but God will! The Lord also urges us to invite Him into the daily grind. Paul’s instruction to “pray without ceasing” (1 Thess. 5:16-18) surely doesn’t stop at cleaning. It’s sandwiched right between rejoicing always and giving thanks in everything. The one leads us to the other. So I can thank God for the beautiful invention of a toilet while scrubbing it (and it is beautiful – imagine life without toilets! or washing machines, gulp). We Dutch women have a little saying we like to whip out on occasion –“cleanliness is next to godliness.” It’s found… absolutely nowhere in the Bible. But the desire to meet up to community standards and maintain a Pinterest-worthy house is definitely still there, and still one we have to battle regularly! So let’s apply Paul’s exhortation to work heartily as for the Lord and not for men… or for mothers-in-law, picky friends, or nosy neighbors. God is honored in both our work and our resting When my oldest was about three, she came up with this brilliant idea. “Mommy,” she said, “we have should have two mommies. Then one can do all the work while you play with us!” And on that particular day, I was almost ready to agree with her. Thankfully, rest isn’t just given but even required. There’s a pitfall I find myself slipping into on occasion – viewing myself a bit like a slave (yes, there’s some over-the-top exaggeration there!). But it can feel like that – some seasons are a long marathon of cleaning and caring for everyone else. Our all-knowing God actually commanded the Israelites to rest. Commanded, as in, not optional. In Deuteronomy 5 He reminds them that they were slaves in the land of Egypt, and He rescued them with a “mighty hand and an outstretched arm.” Freedom comes with the luxury – the prescribed luxury – of rest. God uses the term “rest,” not “me-time.” We live in a hyper-entitled world that constantly tells us, “You deserve it, mama, go settle on the couch with your phone and a glass of wine.” While these things aren’t bad of themselves (in small doses!), they aren’t rights. And I find myself quick to claim them as rights (not the wine, but the doom-scrolling). But rest is above me-time as Greek salad is above ramen noodles. God built rest into the rhyme and rhythm of creation, to be enjoyed on the Lord’s Day as worship and praise to Him. It’s a foretaste of the eternal rest which Christ has won for us. When we rest, we worship Him. We need to guard that rest or it will slip away! Enlist your kids! My mom always wanted to hang this proverb in her kitchen: “Where there are no oxen, the manger is clean, but abundant crops come by the strength of the ox.” Comparing us kids to oxen was, well, rather accurate. As a good Dutch mom of six she had to embrace a lot of mess! She went beyond this to a complete application of the proverb: she faithfully harnessed her “oxen” up for work. This was probably a lot harder on her ears than it was on our hands, but it taught us to work faithfully and well. It was one of the best things she gave us, and I’m grateful for it. I remind myself of that as my four-year-old moans and groans through his daily task of putting away the clean silverware every day. We clean alongside God Himself That’s a truth so glorious it almost sounds heretical, but there are multiple levels to this. First off, there’s the cleaning of creation. It’s truly incredible how God has built cleaners into creation to maintain and purify it. Tides sweep the shorelines, scavengers and fungi devour rotten materials, rains wash the land, trees filter the air. There’s even a bacterium that can turn massive oil spills into harmless carbon dioxide and water within weeks. These are God’s janitorial taskforce on earth, restoring, refreshing, redeeming creation. As we beat back weeds and submit the garden to order, as we scour scum and change diapers, as we restore peace and order once again to our belabored homes, we join God in the redemption of creation. That’s a pretty incredible calling. It’s all a reminder The constant demands of cleaning also point to our spiritual state. As Christians, we are in a constant cycle of conviction, confession and repentance. We come to God, the purifier of our souls, for redemption on a daily basis. He doesn’t get tired of the same old work on the same old soul. So, when we pick up our kids’ dirty undies off the floor for the umpteenth time, may it be a reminder to us of God’s faithful cleaning. One day, the oxen will be gone and the stall will be (moderately) clean. And we’ll miss those dear little cows with all our hearts. But for now, we get to share in the glorious, everyday task of redeeming the universe with God. So if you’ll excuse me, I’ve got a kitchen to redeem!...

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Blessed are the caregivers

For they will be given care ***** Although we don’t get a diploma and cap, many of us graduate from the role of caregiver when our youngest child spreads their wings and leaves our home. For Ed and Alice Hoogerdyk, their caregiving journey began in 2000, when God blessed them with their one and only child: Zach. Two decades later, shortly after Zach spread his wings and became engaged to a wonderful girl named Megan, a sudden illness and anoxic brain injury changed everything. Ed and Alice were called back to full-time caregiving. Ed and Alice aren’t alone. Ed shared that 160,000 Canadians sustain brain injuries each year and a quarter of older adults are family caregivers, with projections that this will increase significantly in our lifetime. Although we may have other plans for our lives, the LORD’s plan is sovereign. We then must decide whether we will run alongside the Zachs in our lives, or run away from them. Zach ran hard as a little guy. He’s running just as hard now. A string bean becomes a man Ed and Alice were married on August 1st, 1998. Ed was a school teacher, and after they married, took a position in Alice’s hometown of Carman, Manitoba. On July 23, 2000, God blessed them with the joy of their life: a healthy boy whom they named Zach. Two years later, they moved to Calgary as Ed took on a new role as school principal, and they have made that city home since then. Zach was shy. “He didn’t leave my side,” said Alice. She tried to make him more social, but he preferred to stay close and sit on her lap. Someone from her church reminded her to treasure this time, because it doesn’t come back. “He wasn’t Mr. Popular in the class. You could tell he was an only child,” she added. But he had a caring heart, looking out for kids who were left out. This carried on as he became a teen and then a young adult. He despised cliques and was intentional about spending time with young people on the margins. Although he wouldn’t have put the label on himself, Zach was a caregiver. As he grew, so did his love for sports, particularly ball hockey, and then running. He got his love of running from watching Ed. “He came to all my races, or most of them,” said Ed. “The next thing you know, he starts running. His goal was to beat my best running times.” As a young adult, Zach got his friends off their couches, organizing activities like skiing and, you guessed it, running races. He didn’t know what he was going to do as a career until he met a gentleman at a school career fair who pointed him to the masonry trade. “He went for an interview, and as he drove off all the other guys at the masonry industry laughed and said, ‘That kid ain't gonna last a week. He's such a little string bean,’” Ed shared. But Zach ended up flourishing in the trade, to the point that, when his boss had to downsize his crew from 40 to 5 not long after hiring him, Zach made the cut. Ed reflects that this was a stage where the whole family was thriving: Alice was enjoying her job as a controller at a construction and building supply company, Ed was experiencing a “whole new lease on life” with a position as Grassroots Director of ARPA Canada, and Zach was flourishing in his new career as a brick layer, with a boss commenting that “people like you come only once every 25 years.” That is also when Zach met Megan at a young adults’ conference in Calgary on a February long weekend. The two clicked, and in due time they were engaged, looking forward to a life together. But the LORD had different plans. From full of life to life-support In March of 2024, Zach made a trip to Megan’s hometown of Winnipeg. When he left, he had a really sore throat and was losing his voice. Ed encouraged him to go to the doctor, but Zach didn’t think it was necessary. “We dropped him off , and I still have the vision of him walking through the doors, pulling his little carry-on,” recalled Ed. That was the last time they saw him walking. Zach spent the weekend at the home of Ed’s brother and sister-in-law, but he wasn’t getting better. On Monday, Megan took him to a clinic, but by that point he could hardly walk out of the house. From the clinic he went straight to critical care in the hospital, and immediately needed assistance with his breathing. At this point, Alice was at home in Calgary, unaware of any issues, and Ed was just starting a two-week speaking tour in southern Ontario. Megan let them know that Zach was checked into the hospital, and Alice was able to talk with Zach on the phone. He told her he was all right, would likely stay overnight, but would be just fine. An hour later a phone call came that Zach had just had a cardiac arrest. Alice immediately went to the airport and was able to catch a flight to Winnipeg because it was delayed. Ed dropped everything and joined her at the hospital soon after. The news they received wasn’t good. “The doctor put his hand on my shoulder and Megan’s and told us to prepare for the possibility that Zach may lose his life.’” Ed and Alice later learned that Zach was going through a combination of strep pneumonia, influenza A, septic shock, bacterial infection, and then the cardiac arrest. The following hours were a blur of medical care, as the team worked hard to get Zach’s temperature down and his oxygen up. They packed bags of ice all over his body. “I still sometimes do it where I go to my phone and scroll up to the 2024 pictures,” shared Ed. “When you look at March, I'm at this gig and that gig. It’s all go, and lots of hype, and all of a sudden there's a picture of Zach laying in this bed.” “Your whole life perspective changes in a second,” added Alice. “You hear stories from other people. You don't know what it's like until you have it yourself.” Although their life changed in a blink, their Foundation didn’t. “It's amazing. Amazing how the Lord held us up through all of that,” Alice testified. She proceeded to share how they were surrounded by loving care from family, friends, and the church community. “It was always just at the right time to build you up again.” The nurses and others asked “how are you handling this?” To this they replied: “Only by the grace of God.” In the proceeding days, weeks, and months, as Zach’s life hung in the balance, there were points when Ed and Alice asked the LORD to spare him from further suffering and take him home. Zach was still on the ventilator, intubated, and endured multiple instances of septic shock. Eventually his hand was amputated, followed by both his feet. He hadn’t spoken since the cardiac arrest, and it was difficult to know the extent of his brain injury and how aware he was of what was happening around him. But when they wheeled him off to surgery to have his feet amputated, Zach was very emotional. Through this journey the family kept loved ones updated through a blog, titled “Running with Zach.” It didn’t take long before countless people from across the country were journeying with them, reading the health updates, meditations, and accompanying Scripture verses, praying for Zach and his loved ones. A new calling He won’t let go of his mama! It wasn’t just Zach’s life that changed, Ed and Alice were given a new calling: caregiver. Ed knew very quickly that he couldn’t carry on with his job, as it required him to travel regularly. He recalled calling his boss and informing him that “it's obvious to me that this is my new calling. It's as simple as that.” Alice, meanwhile, was able to carry on with her bookkeeping work, as it could be done remotely. Ed admits that they went through some dark valleys in the weeks and months following the hospitalization. “But when the time came, we had to be up at Zach's unit and be there for him.” And just like the early years when he needed his mom close by, Zach needed them in the same way now. “If he needed to get changed, or any kind of care, he needed one of us there,” shared Ed. When Zach no longer received one-on-one medical care, he needed Ed or Alice to be close by. “So, we took turns sleeping in his room. And he definitely needed it. He would look, to make sure I wasn’t leaving, then he would lay down and sleep.” When Zach’s health stabilized, it took Ed and Alice some time to find a good care home for their son in Calgary, as some of the care homes for “young adults” (under age 55) were sketchy, filled with rough music, rough language, and even drug trading. A successful physio session sitting up in the prone position. The Hoogerdyks found something special at AgeCare Seton, particularly with the staff. “If you want to learn about care from a culture, look to the Filipino culture. These people get care. They just live care. Young or old,” explained Ed. “They love Zach and a lot of them go to church. They talk about God and faith.” Zach also receives great care from the rehabilitation he is getting at the Association for the Rehabilitation of the Brain Injured (ARBI). “It is a great place. The team is very, very caring,” Ed commented. “He's gained a lot of muscle back,” Alice said. “I can't put my fingers around his arm anymore. He can ‘beat us up,’ and he takes great joy in that.” Lately, Alice has been challenging Zach to give better hugs, and he squeezes her hard, “laughing his head off.” “That’s not good, Zach,” she responds. “That is not loving your mother,” she jokes and then Zach responds with a laugh. Although he remains non-verbal, Zach is now using a tablet to communicate with his caregivers. “The best time of each day is 4:30-5:00, giving him supper, until we leave between 8:30 or 9:00,” explained Ed. “It is almost as if the family memories are all back. You can say certain sayings we used to say at home and he starts to laugh. So he is in a good mood, with lots of laughs.” They always read a devotional together and pray before leaving for the night. “He is dialed in when you’re reading. I try to keep my finger on the words.” He is also able to make it to church some Sundays. “He is listening,” Alice explained. She gave an example of the pastor sharing a one-liner joke and “Zach was even laughing without prompt, where it’s like he sort of gets it.” Blessed is he who considers the poor Having a good laugh with his pappy. Ed and Alice testified that their loving Father has been caring for them every step of the way. “God gives you strength for every day. Not for the next year, not for the next…. No, he gives it for today. It is a real thing,” emphasized Alice. Both Ed and Alice see God’s hand particularly in how He prepared Ed for this new role with his recent career. A lot of Ed’s work was related to protection for the vulnerable. The transition was from advocating for this protection, to actually providing it themselves. But the work experience had deeper application. It didn’t take long and Ed was convicted, particularly through a family member, to advocate for other caregivers through setting up a platform called “Running for Zach”. “We aren’t the only ones doing this. There is a brain injury every three minutes in Canada and it is the leading cause of disability and death in adults under the age of 35. There is a real, real need.” Ed pointed particularly to Psalm 41:1: “Blessed is he who considers the poor.” He explained that the word “poor” means much more than those without financial means. It is the vulnerable, the weak, those who can’t help themselves. “To consider the poor means to pay close attention to them and then to spend significant time and energy changing their lives.” Always one for a quip, Ed proceeded to connect this Psalm to a quote from Dr. Seuss: “Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not!” This goes beyond the Zachs of the world. “We are all vulnerable in one way, shape, or form. We’re all weak. The church should be a haven of caregivers and a haven for caregivers. It should be caregiving central.” I asked Ed and Alice how we, as a church community, can better care for caregivers. Ed said the first step is to overcome the fear of approaching and speaking with the caregivers. “It’s fear. Fear that you are going to say something stupid, fear that you are going to cry. If you are exiting church, don’t try to find a different route to bypass the caregiver.” “Quit stewing too much over ‘I’m not sure what to say’ or ‘I’m not sure what to do.’ Doing something or saying something is better than nothing.” He added that “if you can go to the fellowship hall and talk to somebody about your fishing trip the previous week, surely you can go to a caregiver and find out what’s going on in their lives.” Ed and Alice are grateful to be part of a church community where the leadership led by example in this regard, with an elder or deacon coming to visit them every week. Ironically, it has often been the elder or deacon who leaves feeling lifted up. Kion Foundation First trip back to the mountains since the injury. Ed is now working on building a charitable organization called “The Kion Foundation.” Kion means pillar, and the foundation hopes to be a pillar of hope for families navigating acquired brain injuries. Beyond awareness, the goal is to help fill the care gap between a hospital discharge and home, providing things like centralized therapy and support spaces for caregivers to go to and receive help. Ed shared that it would take 2.8 million full-time equivalent workers to replace the 5.7 billion unpaid hours that family caregivers provide each year in Canada. That is a lot of people, including Christians, who are humbly serving outside the medical system. They need support. The Kion Foundation’s board includes Ed’s brother-in-law, Ed Tams, an entrepreneur, as well as Dr. Stephen Neal; Alisa Lieuwen, whose brother was diagnosed with a rare neurological condition that resulted in him becoming quadriplegic and non-verbal; and Wanda Knol, a business owner and volunteer serving the vulnerable. Designed to be a burden Although we can look forward to a world without the effects of sin, we can trust that God has a good purpose for where we find ourselves today. That includes the burdens He gives us. Ed quoted pastor and theologian John Stott: “We all are designed to be a burden to others. You are designed to be a burden to me, and I am designed to be a burden to you.” Instead of doing everything possible to run from these burdens, we can take to heart our LORD’s calling to “carry each other’s burdens and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ” (Gal. 6:2). Zach isn’t running like he used to. But he is running the race marked out for him. Running alongside him, we can look forward to crossing the finish line, where we will not just run, but soar like eagles. “Let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith.” (Heb. 12:1-2) “Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” (Is. 40:30-31)...

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How to catch Ice Age Man using digital reindeer

What would happen if we assumed ancient man was intelligent? One man did just that, and I haven’t been able to stop talking about it since. Which, incidentally, is a substantial reason to have 10 children, all of whom you homeschool. Captive audience. Professor John O’Shea is an archaeologist with the University of Michigan who likes to read. (It’s a good habit. Highly recommend.) One day, he was reading a book about subarctic reindeer* hunters and the stone structures they use to direct the animals. He was also studying a topographical map of the bottom of Lake Huron. The map included a feature known as Six Fathom Shoal, a continuous underwater ridge connecting southern Ontario to northeast Michigan. During the last days of the Ice Age, that ridge would have been above water, separating Lake Huron into two lakes. As John studied the map and read about the hunters, he realized that the ridge would have been a great place to hunt reindeer thousands of years ago. So he took a team and scanned the lake bottom. It wasn’t easy. The underwater ridge encompasses hundreds of square miles of lakebed, and just reaching the site required a 60-mile trip over unpredictable water. Expectations were low. Often the weather was too dangerous to even think about sailing, but on the rare occasions when they could get out of their port in Alpena, they used side scanning sonar to create a map of the lake bottom. One day, by “dumb luck” they stumbled upon something that maybe only John would have expected or recognized; a line of rocks. Stick with me here. On the leftside, of course You see, reindeer are essentially British. They like queues. Lines. Geometry, one might say, is their love language. To direct reindeer, a hunter can create a line on the ground, usually with stones – sometimes it amounts to a low fence This is called a “drive line.” When the reindeer encounter the line, even though they could easily jump over it, they will often walk alongside it wherever it leads. Not unlike Harold and the Purple Crayon. The line of rocks John O’Shea found on the bottom of the lake looked a lot like a drive lane. Further investigation by a tethered, unmanned underwater robot, and later, divers, revealed it was indeed a man-made drive lane, pointing towards a corral and a blind where the hunters could wait to kill the animals. An incredible, career-changing, history-making discovery. But it gets better. Next, John teamed up with Bob Reynolds from Wayne State University, and together they created a digital topographical map of Six Fathom Shoal during the Ice Age. They simulated rain, and the map filled with rivers, lakes, waterfalls, marshes and creeks. They enlisted botanists to look at the landscape and predict where different plants would have grown. And once the computer world was complete, they did the next sensible thing. They turned an entire herd of AI reindeer loose on the landscape. Initially, the AI reindeer had an annoying habit of walking off cliffs, gliding on stiff, pixelated legs to a swift digital death. The programming took a while to tweak, but as the weeks went on, the AI reindeer took on an increasingly lifelike set of behaviors. The herd was sent from one side of Six Fathom Shoal to the other, and patterns emerged as they learned which routes were best. Then John’ team asked modern reindeer hunters from Alaska and Canada to walk through the virtual landscape on computers, pointing out the best locations for blinds, campsites, and caches. They took intelligent human beings and asked them where they would hunt and then assumed that ancient man would hunt in the same places. Shocking. With this information in hand, they returned to inspect the sea floor. And that’s how they discovered a hunting structure they called “drop site 45.” Right in the location pinpointed as a choke site for the AI reindeer. This hunting site is the most sophisticated of its kind discovered to date. It includes a drive line, blinds, fire pits, and stone rings that indicate places where the hunters may have camped. They also found stone structures identical to those used by modern subarctic hunters to store caches of meat during the freezing winter months. Further investigation revealed stone tools, including one made with obsidian from Oregon. Yep. Oregon. Wagontire, Oregon, to be exact, over 2,000 miles away from the underwater ridge where it was found. Not bad for Ice Age hunters. “None of this matches the models we had about peoples in this region… you have to go back and be like, ‘All right, now we have this new data, what does that mean for what we thought about peoples that were living in the Great Lakes?’ You have to rewrite the story.” – Ashley Lemke, Professor at the University of Wisconsin Milwaukee Breaking down or evolving up? She’s right, of course. The models she’s talking about are based on the assumption that humans evolved from ape-like creatures, stumbling out of the dull fog of an animal existence to come to a shocking realization: “Fire… hot?” Of course we had never looked for evidence of Ice Age structures at Six Mile Shoal before, because the odds of such a creature building anything were slim. But what could we accomplish if we started with the assumption that man was created intelligent and capable, as the Bible teaches? Adam and Eve, coming straight from the hand of the Creator, had perfect genes. Those genes have only deteriorated a little more with each generation that passes. So those Ice Age hunters could well have been more intelligent than you or I. Computer models and sonar can recreate the Ice Age shorelines along the entire globe. What would happen if we looked at those maps and asked where we would build our cities, ports or villages? In some places, accumulated sediment has probably buried any Ice Age structures, but some remain. At the moment, our preferred method of finding these sites is dumb luck. That’s how we discovered a similar hunting drive line under the Baltic sea. The entire underwater world of Doggerland was also discovered by a series of accidents. What if we trusted the Biblical account enough to use less accidents and more “AI reindeer”? Shannon Skaer is an ancient history aficionado, homeschool mom, science nerd, and beekeeper. She lives in a small logging town in Oregon with her very own hero and their ten children. Her life could best be described as a love affair with beauty – which explains the number of babies – and her greatest joy is to know God, from whom all beauty comes. Find out more about her at www.shannonskaer.com. ***** *Reindeer is the fun name for Caribou. For this article, I refer to them as “reindeer” because I’m not a party pooper, and neither are you....

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Blessed are the busy?

Should we be trying to be less busy or be busy better? ***** It’s not really the worst problem to have: too many good things to do, and not enough time to do them all. Maybe that's why, when I talked to so many women about busyness, they admitted to stress and struggles around their busy schedules, but also expressed gratitude for all the things that fill up their days. The question for most of us isn’t whether or not we’re busy (and sometimes too busy). Rather, we wonder if we’re always busy with the right things, and for the right reasons. We want to figure out how to cope with the reality of busyness, and maybe find a way to bring a little more balance and sanity to our lives. BUSYNESS: A HEART ISSUE “I don’t want to miss out on opportunities, mess up relationships by disappointing people, or misstep right out of God’s will. I struggle with keeping some sense of balance in my life. I struggle with worrying about what others think of my decisions...” – Lysa TerKeurst, The Best Yes For better and worse, busyness is as much a heart issue as it is a physical one, and maybe that’s why it’s such a hard one to grapple with. It’s difficult to untangle our motivations for the choices we make with our limited time and energy. Sometimes our busyness is driven by the wrong things, like a desire to please or earn admiration, or by misplaced priorities. Often, though, we’re acting out of a sincere desire to serve God and others, and to be good stewards of the time and opportunities God has given us. We feel keenly the weight of others’ needs and expectations. At the same time, we constantly fight the temptation to compare – and judge. These struggles of the mind and heart lead to a lot of soul-searching. And, as was made clear by some of the thoughts that were shared with me, they are the cause of very real distress for many Christian women. “It can be really quite hard to assess if I am truly called to a new thing or if I should stay the course on what I am doing. It’s hard to assess my motives. And even when I make a decision, I easily second-guess myself.” “Do we make ourselves busy to avoid judgment from others who look at us and think we should be doing more? I feel that sometimes.” “Too often we connect our personal worth and value to the stuff we are busy with.” “... this is what drives me: If I don’t do it, I’ll disappoint someone who matters – or even who doesn’t really. If I don’t do it, I’m lazy... or I’m unstewardly: I can save money by canning and baking and freezing. I’m failing my kids: if I don’t bake, and can, and preserve, I’m feeding them cancer or other diseases. I’m not letting them grow to their fullest potential by taking their sports and music from them... Will I fail my calling and deny my promises at baptism if I don’t do all these things? ... where am I trusting God in all this?” We really do want to be “Proverbs 31 women,” capably accomplishing all our tasks (and then some) with a godly heart and a serene smile on our face, but there just isn’t enough time for everything. We’re only human, but sometimes feel guilty about our very natural weaknesses and limitations. When can we legitimately say that we are “busy enough”? As Kevin DeYoung puts it in his excellent book Crazy Busy, we’re constantly told that: “we should pray more, give more, show hospitality more, share our faith more, read our Bibles more, volunteer more.... Where do I start? Where do I find the time? How can I possibly meet all these obligations?... I think most Christians hear these urgent calls to do more (or feel them internally already) and learn to live with a low-level guilt that comes from not doing enough.... That’s not how the apostle Paul lived (1 Cor. 4:4), and it’s not how God wants us to live either (Rom. 12:1-2). Either we are guilty of sin – like greed, selfishness, idolatry – and we need to repent, be forgiven and change. Or something else is going on. It’s taken me several years, a lot of reflection and a load of unnecessary busyness to understand that when it comes to good causes and good deeds, ‘do more or disobey’ is not the best thing we can say.” PRIORITIES “I have so much to do that I shall spend the first three hours in prayer.” - attributed to Martin Luther When the author to the Hebrews encourages God’s people to “run with perseverance the race marked out for us,” he doesn’t just tell us to throw off “the sin that so easily entangles,” but also urges us to lay aside everything (or “every weight”) that hinders. These “weights” aren’t necessarily bad in themselves – they’re distinct from the “sin” that’s also mentioned – but they draw our attention away from the race that’s in front of us. At its most simple, figuring out a way forward comes down to priorities. If we’re not able to do everything (and we’re not!), we need to identify and prioritize the most important things, the things that can’t be left undone. I think, at heart, most of us know what those most important things are: our relationship with God, our relationships with those closest to us, the daily calling God has put in front of us in our different roles, our own wellbeing (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual). But sometimes taking time for devotions can feel like a leap of faith (“How can I sit down now if I hope to get everything done this morning?”) or, worse, like just another chore; and it’s easy to brush off “relationship time” or adequate sleep when other things feel more urgent. The women I talked to also pondered the importance of well-ordered priorities in their lives, and how to stay focused on the things that really matter. Their helpful suggestions included asking ourselves some pointed questions. “How does my time use match, or not match, what I’ve identified as my priorities?” If God is number one in my life, does my daily and weekly schedule reflect that? Or do things that are far less important, but feel more urgent, keep crowding out Bible study or church activities? “What are my personal non-negotiables?” For one woman, these daily must-do’s are “devotions, going outside into God’s creation (even if it’s just for a short time), and making a good dinner. These are non-negotiables for me because they’re all very important for my physical, emotional and spiritual health as well as my family’s.” Others’ lists are different, but making conscious, deliberate choices about our priorities is key. “Is any one part of my life drastically out of balance?” We’re complex beings, and the different parts of our lives and selves – mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, social, work – affect each other. A Christian counselor shared with me that the biggest cause of stress, in her experience, is an imbalance between these areas. We need regular sleep, exercise, and healthy food. We need relationships that rejuvenate us (especially when other relationships in our lives are more difficult or draining). We need Sunday rest, breaks, and times of quietness. “Am I minimizing ‘artificial busyness’?” Some of the things that make us feel busy actually lack substance. Social media is a big one for many of us. As one woman commented, “This isn’t natural human connecting and working on relationships, this is a substitute” – so we’re better off focusing on the people in front of us, rather than on the virtual relationships and conversations that can divert so much of our time and energy. “Am I too worried about what others think?” Peer pressure, and others’ expectations (real or perceived), are a huge factor in keeping us busy – sometimes with the wrong things. Maybe if you’re willing to raise some eyebrows by challenging or resisting an unhealthy trend, others will gratefully follow. “Am I bringing my decisions, and my struggles, to God?” Many women emphasized the key role of prayer and time in God’s Word in their decisions around time use, and their struggles with feelings like guilt, discouragement and inadequacy. Making time for personal devotions actually is a leap of faith – one that not only honors God, but also grounds us, reminds us to trust God (and humbly recognize our own limits), and helps us make wiser decisions. So how can you have a Mary heart when you have a Martha to-do list? Start by knowing your priorities, focusing on them first, and trusting God to help you sort through the rest. As Kevin DeYoung put it, “The antidote to busyness of soul is not sloth and indifference. The antidote is rest, rhythm, death to pride, acceptance of our own finitude and trust in the providence of God.” WHAT DOES GOD REALLY WANT FROM US... AND FOR US? “It is extraordinary how little the New Testament says about God’s interest in our success, by comparison with the enormous amount it says about God’s interest in our holiness, our maturity in Christ, and our growth into the fullness of his image.” – J.I. Packer, Rediscovering Holiness We all want to be faithful and fruitful... but this desire can easily veer off course. What is it that God most wants from us, and for us? The fact that He made us with very real weaknesses and limitations tells us something. He created us to need sleep, and in fact a substantial number of hours of it. He sometimes gives us extended, enforced periods of waiting and inactivity. These realities can be very frustrating for us. Couldn’t we accomplish so much more for Him if we didn’t have these limitations? But evidently – and amazingly – God is more interested in us, and the sanctifying work He’s doing in us, than simply in our raw productivity. We’re not merely servants with long and burdensome lists of tasks; we’re loved children. What a freeing thought, and what an undeserved honor! When we start evaluating ourselves (or others) based on how much we can accomplish, we’re using a skewed measurement – and not the one God uses. On a personal level, we may be showing Pharisaical tendencies, trying to earn the favor of God and others. On a larger scale, we’re starting down a very dangerous path, as we buy into a worldview that equates worth with ability, leading to devastating social consequences. By all means, let’s do our best to be faithful stewards of the time, energy, resources, and opportunities God has given us, and let’s be busy with many good things for Him. But let’s not forget His priorities for us, since “we have received not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, that we might understand the things freely given us by God” (1 Cor. 2:12). STEWARDING OUR TIME “Stewarding my time is not about selfishly pursuing only the things I’d like to do. It’s about effectively serving others in the ways I’m best able to serve and in the ways I’m most uniquely called to serve.” - Kevin DeYoung, Crazy Busy Sometimes we live at the pace of craziness because of unconsciously wrong priorities or confused expectations; other times it’s because of factors that really are outside our control, and we just have to hang on for a season that’s busier than feels ideal. (Often we learn a lot in these seasons, and God certainly uses them too.) But sometimes we bring the craziness on ourselves, and change is needed. It takes mature self-discipline, planning, and some self-denial to be good stewards of our time. But, by God’s grace, these things are within our reach. So let’s take the steps needed to curb our bad online habits. Let’s stick to a reasonable bedtime, or maybe meal plan (I know that makes some of us shudder), or say a polite “no” to something good so we can say “yes” to something better – whatever it takes in your particular life and circumstances. (See the sidebar article “Taming busyness” for more practical tips from other women.) One helpful but sometimes hard-to-implement principle is to leave room for “margin” – defined by Christian author Dr. Richard Swenson as “the space between our load and our limits.” For most of us, there’s rarely a week or even a day without some unexpected interruption, need, or crisis – a fender-bender, a lost pair of glasses, a washing machine malfunction, an unwelcome visit from the flu bug – and if we don’t have any “wiggle room” in our schedule, these unexpected problems can quickly derail us and cause disproportionate stress. Again, knowing our priorities helps us in this area too; if our secondary to-do’s don’t get done because of a sudden change of plans, we’ll be less fretful if we know we at least made time for our key tasks or goals. We also need to realize that using our time well doesn’t always look like we think it should. As Kevin DeYoung points out, caring for people – which should be a priority for all of us – is “often wildly inefficient. People are messy, and if we are going to help them we will wade into a lot of time-consuming messes.” Many of the most important things we’re busy with don’t fit nicely on a to-do checklist. Finally, being stewardly with our time means making constant choices, big and small, based on our priorities and on other factors. We may care about a lot of things, and be concerned about a lot of things (and people), but that doesn’t mean God is calling us to meet every need. So how do we decide if a new commitment should be a “yes”? Here are a few questions that other women have found helpful to consider: “Have I counted the cost?” Like the builder in Luke 14, we need to “count the cost” before we start a project. As one woman commented, “The task itself is always only a fraction of the commitment”; but too often we aren’t realistic about what something will required from us. Most activities involve not only a time cost, but also a mental/emotional energy cost – which affects both you and the people in your life. “Does this fit with my strengths – or, if not, will it stretch me in a positive way?” It’s okay to play to our strengths. One woman I know dislikes making meals for other families, but enjoys cleaning and organizing. For years she would feel stressed every time a church meal request came out – and either sign up and dread the whole experience, or not sign up and feel guilty. Now she offers to help in other ways: “I often will say “what is causing you stress right now?” – and then see if I can help in that area. I’ve done anything from researching and buying an iPad for someone to re-organizing a pantry or cleaning out a shed.” Another woman agreed, “When we use our strengths, things tend to go more smoothly and with less stress.” Of course, there are times when we might be ready for a helpful “stretch,” so it’s good to keep an open mind – and a prayerful heart – about new opportunities as well. “Do I feel passionate about this?” Although some things aren’t particularly exciting and simply need doing, we’re naturally drawn to some tasks more than to others, and it’s okay to factor that into our decision-making. Do I believe this activity is really worthwhile? Does this activity “fill me up” or drain me? Do I feel energized when I think about doing this? BLESSED TO BE BUSY “Lay your life down. Your heartbeats cannot be hoarded. Your reservoir of breaths is draining away. You have hands, blister them while you can. You have bones, make them strain – they can carry nothing in the grave.” - N.D. Wilson, Death by Living Busyness means life – the blessings of relationships, of talents, of energy, of opportunities, of good tasks to do. As Kevin DeYoung puts it, “the reason we are busy is because we are supposed to be busy.” We are blessed to be busy. It’s okay to work hard; the Bible has nothing good to say about “the sluggard.” It’s okay to be tired – as long as we recognize the line between healthy fatigue and unhealthy exhaustion. It’s okay to be stretched; often it’s how we grow. So let’s be busy carefully and deliberately, prayerfully and peacefully – not taking on burdens we were never meant to carry, and not because we find our self-worth or our life’s meaning in the things we’re busy with. And let’s give grace to ourselves and others – the same grace God extends to us in our weaknesses. We can never truly know what our neighbor is dealing with, or what limitations he or she grapples with, so let’s be careful about judging, pressuring, or comparing. “For each will have to bear his own load” (Gal. 6:5). A quick note to the married and mothers among us: don’t add to the strain of your single/childless friends by assuming they have all kinds of time you don’t. They may not have a family to take care of (though they may well be caring for parents, without the help of a spouse), but they also aren’t sharing the daily tasks of cooking, shopping, car maintenance, and so on. Let’s “bear each other’s burdens,” not add to them. “Who are you to pass judgment on the servant of another? It is before his own master that he stands or falls.... So then each one of us will give an account of himself to God” (Rom. 14:4, 12). “So let’s do what needs to be done with a happy heart, thankful for each of these opportunities and the evidence of life they represent. Whistle while we work. Do a great job.... Just remember not every responsibility can be your responsibility.” - Lysa TerKeurst, The Best Yes...

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My journey with books

It has been a long journey of books for me. I grew up with books, and as a child read from The Book of Knowledge encyclopedia, the Bobbsey Twins series and Grace Livingston Hill’s books. It was my own love for books which had me keep my nursing and my Bible College textbooks. But it was not until I met my husband-to-be John that I really discovered what it was to have books in the house – here was a man who loved books! On our very first date, when I mentioned that I had Berkoff’s Systematic Theology, John asked if maybe he could borrow it some time. I thought to myself, “There is no way he is going to get that textbook - I’ll never see it again!” For our first 3 months of marriage we lived with John’s parents in Oshawa, Ontario before we went to Grand Rapids, Michigan, where John was to study at Calvin Seminary. During those 3 months, I decided to straighten out John’s bookcases. That meant I put the books all in neat rows according to height and size – I was tired of look at those messy shelves. John was not a happy camper when he came home and found out that his books were not in subject order. Oh well, live and learn, in those early marriage days. More and more books Throughout his ministry, the supply of books increased. John mostly bought books at garage sales, library sales, or people would kindly give him books from their collections – he would never say no to that. But then we would need more bookshelves and more space. In all our moves the books came with us. From Vernon, BC to Wellandport, ON they came by train in the deep of winter. None were lost. He took about 400 books with us to the Philippines – ones he needed for teaching at the seminary. It was a challenge to sort and choose. He took some Dutch books as well, only to find that the bok-bok worm liked the glue in his Dutch books (but they had no interest in his cheap paperbacks). In all our pastorates John has his study in the house, taking up a bedroom for his books. In Wellandport the church built a special addition on to the parsonage for his study. That was much needed – our family of six needed the room. And the quantity of books continued to grow. All sorts John was happiest when he had a book and pen in his hand to make his own personal notes and scribbles – he did not use a highlighter for his markings. And he was quite an eclectic reader, his reading ranging from The Communist Manifesto to Francis Schaeffer’s writings. One of his favorite books to read again and again was Augustine’s Confessions. Right up there among his favorites were C.S. Lewis, Chuck Colson, Martyn Lloyd-Jones, and A. Kuyper. There was no end of his favorite special writers. I could tell when John was tired – that’s when he would pull out a good Dutch novel. Though he was a serious reader, John enjoyed a good mystery, the likes of Agatha Christie or G.K. Chesterton. Tools in his toolbox John was often asked if he had read them all. Yes, he would say. Mind you, some of them were strictly reference material for his sermons or articles. Did he keep every book he got from day one when he started his ministry? Believe it or not, he gave away a good number to future seminarians and threw out others that were no longer relevant or falling apart. Did it make a dent on the shelf? Hardly. At one point I had to put my foot down and say I did not want bookshelves in our bedroom or kitchen. Looking after all these books was a challenge, especially when it came to dusting and straightening up the shelves. Books are real dust collectors so every year around Christmas or New Years I would take them down, shelf by shelf, and give them all a good dusting. I would find pieces of paper stuck in a book, along with clippings, articles, and any other kind of paper for his notes. Yes books were part and parcel of John’s ministry and our married life. Books were his tools, just like that of a carpenter or painter. They had to be accessible somewhere, even if that meant a pile on the floor by his chair and not in a box in the cupboard. Passing on the tools The time came in John’s last 2 months when he could not hold a pen or a book, let alone have the stamina to read. That was a blow to give up something he loved dearly all his life. One of my hardest times was to go into his study where I saw piles of books he had gathered for his articles, his pens his notes and the discarded scraps of paper in his wastebasket… all just where he left it to the point of no return. A year later I sorted out John’s Dutch books, computer filed each title and author, boxed 1,300 of them and took them to the Canadian Reformed Seminary in Hamilton. I did the same with his English books, computer filed each title, and author, boxed 3,600 books, and took them to Redeemer Christian College University in Ancaster, Ontario. A few books went to family and to several of John’s colleagues. That was John’s wish and prayer – that his books would be used for God’s glory and His Kingdom. So this is my journey with books – from a few boxes when we arrived in Vernon, BC in 1966 to our life in London, ON where I took out over 200 boxes of books. The journey has been long and good and I certainly have no regrets living surrounded by books! For 13 years Rev. Johan Tangelder (1936-2009) – John – wrote articles for Reformed Perspective. You can find many of those articles here, and many more on his website. This article first appeared in the July 2011 issue....

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Navigating failure

Fear of failure can paralyze you. There’s a lot to be said about how, in order to succeed, you need to be comfortable with failure – but that doesn’t erase the fact that failing feels painful and shameful. Who wants that? Better to avoid it. Suddenly success becomes less important than “not failing.” And the only sure way to avoid all the feelings that come with not being able to do something is to not try it at all. Not trying assures you of not failing. But in trying to avoid failure, you can hold yourself back from doing things in your path that God has given you to do. So what’s a good way to navigate failure? There are two different approaches I've taken at different times of my life to deal with this fear of failure. They both begin with a question. What would you do – or attempt – or explore... 1) …if you knew you couldn’t fail – that it was impossible? 2) … if you were free to fail?” 1. What if you could not fail? “What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?” I first came across this question in a book called Launching a Leadership Revolution, but asking this kind of question is a pretty common approach to working with a fear of failure. Why? Because this question can be clarifying: stop thinking about what’s holding you back and start thinking about what you’d really want to do if you could. Once you know what you really want, then you can think about how to navigate the obstacles that might come up. If you never stop to think about what you really desire to accomplish, you could spend your whole life doing things that feel safe just because they feel safe, and miss what you might be uniquely suited to do. But this question can also be disheartening, and it certainly was for me back when I first read it. Because the answer was – a lot more than what I was doing at that moment. I can’t count how many times the fear of terrible things happening to me stopped me, all because I couldn’t count on these terrible things not happening. And I’m not alone in dreaming of a world of failure-free achievement, judging by the number of self-help books that use this quote. It is true that many successful people plowed on despite failure and in the face of more failure, but I couldn’t shake the nagging awareness of people who did plow on after failing and just kept on failing. I know failure isn’t necessarily a bad thing. But it can feel terrible. And there’s no guarantee that “keep trying” will lead to success. So I found it difficult to ignore the thought of failure, as this quote seemed to advise me to do. Or even to accept failure as part of the process. The quote did, however, inspire me to dream about what I’d like to achieve with my life. It helps cut to the chase of what you really want to do, even if you feel at the moment that it’s unachievable. Which brings me to the second approach. 2. What if you were free to fail? “When you’ve been found, you’re free to fail.” – James K.A. Smith, On the Road with St. Augustine When you’re young, life is more about trying to make choices about what you want to do, and that must’ve drawn me to the first question years ago. Maybe I’m drawn to this second quote more now as I’m older and navigating the result of my own and other people’s failures. Here’s the full quote in context: “Resting in the love of God doesn’t squelch ambition; it fuels it with a different fire. I don’t have to strive to get God to love me; rather, because God loves me unconditionally, I’m free to take risks and launch out into the deep. I’m released to aspire to use my gifts in gratitude, caught up in God’s mission for the sake of the world. When you’ve been found, you’re free to fail.” Rest, rather than striving. Release rather than control. And the peace of God’s love, rather than approval conditional on success. Humans judge on achievements. We compare each other, and we compare ourselves to each other, and in the age of social media it doesn’t take long to see how much we lack in comparison to everyone else. But if life is about what we produce, what we show, and whether we’ve made good on the promise or potential we showed at one point, how can we ever find peace? Good questions both I still like both questions though. What would you do if you knew you could not fail is for young people deciding what to do with their lives. They’re making decisions about paths to take. They’re trying to diagnose their passions. What if you’re free to fail is for when you get a little older. It’s for those days when you’re dealing with the knowledge you have failed at various things. You DID fail. What does that mean? How do you handle it? Failure hits us because we take it as a reflection of who we are and what we’re worth. But we’re urged to start from a place of acceptance – God’s acceptance. Sometimes failure weighs on us because we know our sin is involved. Our feelings of guilt add to the pain of failure. But the beauty of this quote is that it prevents us from relying on “fixing” ourselves – God makes us acceptable. God loved us even when we were dead in our sins, and He promises us no sin can come between us if we turn to Him. God doesn’t ask us to overcome our failures before He loves us. He makes us new, and we can rely on that. So this is not only about the type of failure you can learn from. It’s not just the kind of “failing so you know what to do better next time.” Not the kind of failing that life coaches advise you is good for you (“fail fast and fail hard!”). No, this applies to the kind of failing that seems completely futile, that seems to have no meaning and no lesson to learn. The kind of failure that can crush you and make you too paralyzed to do anything more. You need the promise you’re accepted no matter what. What we really need Because here’s the thing about failure: you won’t avoid it. In a broken world, you will crash and burn at some point. But maybe we face failure for a reason – to be reminded that we cannot go through life on our own. Failure forces us to face the reality we’re dependent on God. He has to take us through the next steps. Both of the above approaches to failure are quotes from human authors. But the Bible reminds us that God promises to be there in all our shortcomings. In 2 Cor. 12:9 we read how God reminded Paul that, “My power is made perfect in weakness,” and in Phil 1:6 Paul reminds us that God “who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.” What God started, He will finish, and we can rest in that assurance. In the end, none of us will be failures. What we really need is not to reach certain milestones, to earn anything, or to look successful in the eyes of the world, but rather to learn that utter dependence on God. If you can let go and let God work out His plan for the world, you can trust He will bring everything to good. You can trust He knows the way even when you don’t....

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Taming busyness: practical tips

“If I’m caught up on my laundry, does that mean I’m not doing enough for the church?” “Am I allowed to fit in time for exercise, or only if it’s between 6 and 7 AM?” “Can I say ‘no’ to the women’s Bible study if it’s the only night this week that my husband and I are both home?” Even when our hearts and minds are in the right place, there are still to-do’s and deadlines, crises in our life, and decisions to be made (and, occasionally, goofy questions that cross our mind). Here are some of the tips women shared with me (quoted and paraphrased) to help tame the inevitable busyness of life. Be deliberate about the complications you add Be deliberate about the complications you add to your life… Our gadgets, our wardrobe, our extracurriculars, how we celebrate holidays – can we simplify? How busy are we with details that don’t really matter, or that add more stress than joy? Every commitment or complication you add to your life (joining a sports team, getting a pet, opening an Etsy shop, growing a garden) adds busyness – often more than we anticipate. Embrace these kinds of good opportunities, by all means, but choose the ones that will truly enrich your life and that fit in with your other priorities. Know your limits Don’t cheat your body – it really does need sleep, healthy food, and exercise (and maybe not quite that much caffeine). Recognize not just your limits of physical busyness, but also of being mentally/emotionally “used up.” “I used to ‘push through,’ but there’s always a payback time eventually.” “Develop healthy habits and trust God to care for you.” “When I cross the line to too busy, I start to take myself too seriously, I lose joy in my task, and the people that I presumably love the most in the world become burdensome to me. That is always my sign that I have to slow down.” “If I can’t help with something I can always pray for that person, activity, situation. I’m saying no but I trust that God is already there providing.” Know what’s important You will miss out on some good and worthwhile things – and so will your kids. If you know you’re saying “no” to something because you’re committed to what you’re saying “yes” to, it’s easier to let opportunities pass you by. “I decided that, at this stage of life, healthy meals are more important than a perfectly clean house. Maybe one day I’ll have time for both... or, maybe not.” “Sometimes ‘done’ is better than ‘perfect.’” “Accept a bit more chaos.” “There are times when I suddenly realize that all the kids are overdue for haircuts again, and the boys’ pants are showing a bit too much sock. But they’re all loved and fed so I try not to stress too much.” Know what “fills you up” Some things deplete us (and we can’t entirely avoid these things), while other things recharge us. Recognize the things that energize you, and find opportunities to do them: coaching a school team, baking cinnamon buns for a stressed-out friend, bringing flowers to shut-ins, writing an article? Start your day right What do you reach for first in the morning: your phone or your Bible? Treasure Sundays and breaks that refresh Sunday can bring its own busyness. If you’re not refreshed and refocused by your Sunday habits, does something need to change? Breaks are good, but sometimes they’re not truly rejuvenating. The last time you let yourself mindlessly scroll on your phone for a mental break, how did you actually feel afterwards? What if you took a short walk or picked up your devotional instead? Identify your biggest time-waster(s) Where or how do you get most distracted and waste the most time, without any significant benefit to yourself or others? Reclaim some of this “lost time”: set time limits for yourself, ask for accountability from a loved one, or remove the source of a temptation. Do the small thing when you can’t do the big one No time for that visit? You can send an encouraging note. Never seem to make it to the gym? Find a ten-minute online workout. Something is (almost) always better than nothing. “Do a little and trust that God will use it.” Spread the load If you’re a mom – kids and chores: how well acquainted are yours? Your investment of time in teaching your kids helpful skills will pay off for everyone, not least for your kids themselves. Do you have a friend or sibling with different strengths than you? Could you swap some tasks in a way that benefits you both? Get extra mileage out of your time “I listen to the Bible on audio while driving, or cooking.” “We use our dinner times to intentionally check in with our kids, try to have meaningful conversations and stay connected.” “Turn all those driving time (sports, appointments, etc.) into one-on-one ‘dates’ with your kids. Often great conversations happen when it’s just the two of you in the car.” “If you’re running an errand, always take one child along.” Kids and chores: are yours acquainted? Recognize there are different seasons in life Although balance is a good overall goal, there are seasons that will feel out of balance. There are also times when certain things we’d love to do just aren’t possible because of the pressing needs of the moment. One mom shared with me that she used to get frustrated because it was hard to find quiet time for devotions with her young kids around. So she started doing devotions with them instead – reading and praying out loud, and letting her kids “take notes” in their own little notebooks while she journaled. It’s been a good solution for this stage of her life. “Looking back, the time when my kids were small and were all at home was so short. Why was I so impatient to try to fit in all kinds of other things?” Count your blessings “Sometimes when I feel complain-y about all the things I have to do, I think about my immigrant grandmothers. I have choices and conveniences they never would’ve dreamed of. It’s a good reality check.” ...

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Why Charlie Kirk’s death hit so hard

For a time, in September, my Facebook feed – I’m sure yours too – was full of tributes to Charlie Kirk. At this point, I don’t need to tell you that Kirk was big. He was the founder of Turning Point USA, an organization maybe best known for setting up tables at university campuses across the USA, with Kirk, and sometimes his friends too, willing to debate anyone who would take the mic. Some give Kirk credit for Trump’s win in 2024, because of the way Turning Point was so effective in its outreach to young voters. I felt a weight when I heard about his assassination. And the weight increased as I processed. Maybe that’s how you felt too. If you track the news, it’s been a heavy year. Overdoses. Transgenderism. Abortion. Stabbings. Euthanasia. Shootings. Never mind the economy. Now this. But why is this hitting so hard? I only watched Kirk’s videos occasionally. Why am I mourning someone who had so little impact on my day-to-day life? Of course, you have to feel sad for his loved ones – but it’s not that kind of grief. Assassinations are jarring, by nature. Not that I’ve lived through too many. But this is different. Charlie Kirk’s murder crystallized the hatred that I’ve been seeing directed towards Christian ideas and towards prolife activists. The hatred that activist Christians have felt directed our way through the condescension and the shouts, now manifested through murder. Across America, and Canada too, thousands celebrated. Mocked. Laughed. Who watches a man die, and laughs? That scares me. The apostle John equated hatred with murder (1 John 3:15), and I’ve never felt how close that link is until now. In her video commemorating Charlie, Christian commentator Allie Beth Stuckey put it, “We’re bringing words. They’re bringing weapons.” Ultimately, Charlie Kirk was murdered for views that I hold. Probably not all of them, but the fundamentals. Many of those views are non-negotiable Christian convictions that you and I and all God’s people hold. Christianity wasn’t a part of Kirk’s message: it was the driving force behind it. The gap and the bridge For a while, it’s been pretty clear that Christianity stands at odds with secular beliefs. Now, two seemingly contradictory things come to mind: 1. It’s not an “us” versus “them” We can’t just write off everyone on the other side. Christ came and died for us while we were still His enemies (Romans 5:8-10), and if not for Him, we would be enemies still. So, if God can do that for us, what might He be working in those folks over there? So we need to talk. As Charlie put it: “When people stop talking, really bad stuff starts. When marriages stop talking, divorce happens. When churches , they fall apart. When civilization stops talking, civil war ensues. When you stop having a human connection with someone you disagree with, it becomes a lot easier to want to commit violence against that group.” The Christian response is to treat everyone with dignity (Matt. 7:12), and pray for anyone who hates us (Matt. 5:43-44). 2. There are two sides We can’t be confused about how there are two sides (Josh. 5:13-14): God’s side, and everyone else’s. As God’s people we are, and are called to be, fundamentally different. To me, the spiritual battle was brought to light by this assassin’s physical act. Are these two conflicting views? No. These both make sense when we recognize what we share with our enemies: we’re all made in the image of God (Gen. 9:6), and we’re all in desperate need of a Savior. We can look across the divide in humility knowing there but for the grace of God, go I. Social media makes both sides think, “Duh!?” The algorithms selecting what’ll show up in our social media feeds only sharpen the division, making it difficult to actually have compassion for others. Everyone wonders: How can anybody support ____? It’s just so obviously wrong! Then we all click on what we want to see, and afterwards the algorithm feeds us more and more of the same. My liberal friend commented, “He shouldn’t have been killed. But he said the gun deaths are worth it, so it just feels ironic.” Worth it. Worth what? Did he really say that? What did he mean? But the internet clip stops right there. “Hah,” laughs an anti-gun activist. The assumption is that had Charlie known he would be killed by a gunman, then his tune would’ve changed. I disagree, largely because I got to see what else Charlie said. Another thing Kirk said was: “I don’t believe in empathy,” and since his murder that quote has been pasted across the Internet. “How heartless can you be?” thinks the social studies student. Missed is the next phrase that isn’t included: “I prefer sympathy.” And Kirk went on from there to explain why. One student asked him, “If your ten-year-old daughter was raped, would you want her to have the baby?” Kirk answered: “Yes.” Some stop listening at “yes.” Those who listen longer hear a compassionate “why.” Explanations on immigration and marriage aren’t heard, but clips “proving” xenophobia, transphobia, and homophobia dominate YouTube. Charity is dead. Assumptions of good intent are gone, and undiscerning scrolling forms a worldview. Those who hear only what they want call him a hateful, dangerous fascist. When that’s your belief, then all redeeming qualities fail. They’re not redeeming qualities at all – they’re manipulation tactics. And assassinating a fascist is a heroic act. One spray-painted billboard read: “Death to all Charlie Kirks.” That’s enough Internet for me today. Can we get back to normal life? It’s tempting to dismiss this as a one-time event. A crazy person shot a MAGA activist. We’re not American. Most people aren’t crazy. Right? Maybe we could start to be discerning again. More neutral. The words “He had it coming,” will always be wrong. But we might reflect, “Should he really have linked his Christianity so closely with partisan politics?” or “He was unnecessarily controversial… if he just spoke the Gospel, this wouldn’t have happened.” Not quite victim blaming, but maybe we should adjust the halo a bit? Should we really call him a martyr? If he is one – if that’s what we were to conclude – we’d also have to conclude that Christianity itself is hated, not just some Christians who don’t put a good face to it. Then it’s not just about Charlie; you and I are hated. And I think the 100+ church burnings across Canada in the last 5 years bear witness to Who is really hated. So no, this wasn’t a matter of tone. We don’t look at prophets in the Old Testament, and suggest perhaps their tone was off. Sorry, Jeremiah. You were a bit harsh there - a little too blunt on that one! Watch any of his videos – in whole – and listen to those who knew him; Charlie Kirk was incredibly patient and well-versed. He was grounded in the Gospel, in both public and personal life. Many young people attribute their own shift to conservatism to Charlie Kirk, and many are now opening their Bibles for the first time while navigating the loss. Charlie Kirk was targeted because he was effective. The turning point I’m not the first to say this – it’s ringing all over the Internet: in the bullet, hate took a physical form. And this is how Charlie’s wife responded: “You have no idea what you have just unleashed across this world and across this entire nation.” Erika Kirk is right, God has so used this that in Charlie’s death his voice has been amplified. His videos are being watched even more. And I’m excited for all the new voices who have been emboldened to speak. Christian voices. As I’m writing this, a lot has already been said. An insane amount of commentary. But the hate felt personal, so I wrote too. I’ve done outreach – speaking up for the unborn – some of it on university campuses. My life hasn’t been in danger, but the hate’s been the same. The people in Kirk’s videos are the same sort that pro-life activists talk to every day on the streets. Like Charlie Kirk, I enjoy talking to someone who radically disagrees with me; I get to show my own humanity, and I get to tear down the image of heartless, ignorant pro-life monsters that they’ve crafted about us in their minds. Conclusion Charlie’s assassination brought it home: they hate us – they really hate us. And there are so many of them. I wrote a poem a few years ago, while struggling with the weight of others’ opinions of me. I find it a good measure for checking my own heart and actions. Am I doing something wrong, or am I just scared of being ridiculed? Am I hesitant to speak because I think it’s prudent, or because I fear the opinions of others? Strive, at the end of the day When fingers are pointed my way, To have no fault but Thine. Let them hate my faithfulness, I say. Your laws, they laugh at. Your love, they despise. I pray, they find those in me, And be not me, they criticize. You and I both know we’ll do it imperfectly. But that’s not the calling. We don’t have to worry about perfection – Jesus has accomplished that for us. The outcome of evangelism isn’t on us either. But obedience is. May God grant us the courage to speak out boldly and patiently to a world that so desperately needs to hear His Good News. Picture is adapted from one by Gage Skidmore and used under a CC BY-SA 2.0 license....

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Dominee’s friend

There is style and there is class. Dominee may not have had much style, as the world considers style, but he had class. Dominee had accepted a call to another church. At such a time we cover up the pain of separation with laughter. How could we be happy? This was the man whom God had sent to us to speak to us the Word of God every Sunday. We heard the voice of the Great Shepherd through His under-shepherd twice every Lord’s day. Because Dominee’s voice was so familiar, and his sermons somewhat predictable, we thought we knew him. We knew from the cadence of his heavily accented sentences when he was wrapping up the sermon — just the final song yet, and the benediction, and we’d soon be outside chatting, swapping stories, and laughing. Dominee was not what you would call an especially stylish man. During all the years he preached to us he wore a grey suit. He may have replaced it with a new one once in a while, but we never noticed because the new one was identical to the previous. Nothing stylish about Dominee. Even when he would drop by because of illness in the family or if someone needed encouragement, he’d wear a grey suit. We thought we knew him, until his farewell evening. As I said, when we are sad, we turn to laughter. To cover up our sadness. The farewell evening had begun and was evolving in a predictable way. There was only one unusual thing that immediately caught everyone’s attention. Near the front of the church sat an old Sikh gentleman and his wife. We could tell he was a Sikh because he was wearing a turban. The turban happened to be pink. Later I was told it was, in fact, lavender. The chairman of the men’s society, a serious man, ascended the pulpit. He read some Scripture, prayed, and invited us to sing a well-known Psalm. On behalf of the men’s society, he spoke some kind words of farewell to Dominee, his wife, and the children, and then presented them with a gift, a beautiful painting of local scenery: “We don’t want you to forget this beautiful part of the country!” This was followed by several presentations — women’s, young people’s, youth. And on it went, predictably and comfortably. The presentations alternated between funny, sad, and poignant. But mostly we laughed. When the elders and deacons performed a humorous skit about Dominee’s typical way of leading a meeting, we laughed heartily. When one of Dominee’s local colleagues told a story about Dominee at a classis meeting, we laughed so hard we thought our sides were going to burst. After several hours, when everyone was good and ready for coffee and cake, the chairman of the men’s society ascended the pulpit once again. With gravity, he thanked everyone for coming, bade Dominee farewell once more, and asked if there was anyone whom he had missed, or who had not been on the program but yet wanted to say something. The Sikh gentleman stood up. Well, this was interesting. Slowly, with age and dignity, he walked to the front of the church. He began to speak. This was very interesting. No one could remember a Sikh speaking in our church. He began to tell a story. It had been a hot summer afternoon when he and his wife were walking along the sidewalk. Suddenly overcome by heat, thirst, and exhaustion, he sat on a stone wall in front of a house. That house, as it turned out, was the Manse. Dominee was sitting in the shade reading a newspaper from the old country that had just come in the mail. He noticed the Sikh man sitting at the end of the driveway on the stone wall, and the man’s wife bending over him with a look of concern on her face. Dominee got up to see if he could help. “My husband is very thirsty,” said the lady. “Could he please have some water?” Dominee went to the house and came back with a pitcher of water and some glasses. He poured two glasses of water, and then he took a moment to speak about the other water, the living water that Jesus provides. On that day Dominee and the Sikh became friends. The Sikh gentleman and his wife would drop by more often to talk with Dominee. We never knew. We thought we knew our Dominee. We all listened intently to the Sikh as he told us the story about our kind Dominee. He considered it an honor to count him a friend and wanted to give him a parting gift. The Sikh explained that it was their custom to give the turban they are wearing to their departing friend. The turban would be a reminder of their friendship. With that the Sikh removed the turban from his head, reached forward, and placed it on Dominee’s head. Dominee was mostly bald and had a smaller head than his Sikh friend, and so the turban sank down over Dominee’s forehead. It was a sight to behold! Our Dominee clothed in his trademark grey suit, the only way we had ever seen him in all the years he had ministered to us, wearing a lavender-colored turban. No one laughed, snickered, or tittered. Instead, after a moment during which you could have heard a pin drop, the congregation slowly rose and began to clap. We did not know whether we were clapping for Dominee or the Sikh. Likely, we were clapping for the Lord. We had seen a remarkable thing. Our immigrant congregation may not have had much style, but on that evening we had class. Dominee wore the turban for the rest of the evening, during coffee and as we all came by his table to say farewell. He wore it with pride. Dominee did not have much style, but he had a lot of class. And we thought we knew him. There is style, and there is class. This is a true story, which I experienced as an adolescent boy at the departure of a neighboring minister. The references to style and class were inspired by Sietze Buning’s “Style and Class” collection of poems. This first appeared in the January 2015 issue....

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Veya’s story

The fight for her life in a broken and biased healthcare system – one that sees doctors perpetrating euthanasia and abortion and calling them both medical care. ***** “Our sweet Veya Hope ran into the arms of Jesus yesterday.” So shared Veya’s mother, Krystal Vanderbrugghen, on her Instagram page on August 2, 2025. Krystal continued: “Her name was her calling – Hope. She carried it with her every single day she spent inside those hospital rooms and gave it to all who knew her.” Veya was first introduced to the waiting world, and to the arms of her parents Krystal and Jeremy, just a year and a half earlier, on December 4, 2023. Although the LORD didn’t have many days allotted for Veya here on Earth, her life touched tens of thousands of hearts. And her experiences here also exposed just how difficult it can be to fight for care in a broken world and medical system. “We pray that Veya’s story continues to encourage other families who are given this same precious gift – the gift of loving and raising a child with Down Syndrome,” Krystal explained. Hope born Jeremy and Krystal, along with their other children Ivylee, Irelyn, and Lincoln, live in Caledonia, Ontario. In the fall of 2023, as they were eagerly awaiting the birth of another child, they learned that their baby had a congenital heart defect which would require surgery at some point after birth. “While this is a lot to process, we know without a doubt God truly has a perfect plan for this baby even though the road ahead is filled with uncertainties.” That’s what Krystal shared at that time on Instagram, not realizing just how true these words would be for her and her family. She would continue to share, with all who took an interest, the challenges of the road they were on. In an appearance on RP’s Real Talk podcast earlier this year, talking with Lucas Holtvluwer, Krystal explained that hospital stays brought their own problems. “She was born with Down Syndrome and a cardiac defect – pretty straightforward – but she has now encountered some medical complexities from living her life in a hospital this long and from delayed treatments.” One complication and delay led to another, and Veya was transferred from Hamilton’s McMaster Hospital to SickKids Hospital in Toronto, which is one of the leading children’s hospitals in the world. Crumbling care “Our journey started off really great, like we had teams that were really invested,” Krystal explained to Lucas. “But then we experienced her care declining January of this year, so that kind of set her on a totally different trajectory.” “Specifically with her last ICU admission, you could just tell through the conversations with the doctors that they were really just trying to wrap things up with her and kind of coerce us into letting her go rather than help her,” she shared on the podcast. “I feel like the team coach, trying to keep the spirits alive…. But they all just kind of vanished.” Krystal was particularly confused when Veya was denied a necessary liver transplant. She asked their Pediatric Advanced Care team if it was Veya’s Down Syndrome that was influencing their decision-making. “They can never say yes or no, but they said, ‘Mom, I think you know the answer to that deep down in your heart.’ And I said, ‘well, that is the confirmation.’” One particular incident really broke Krystal’s trust in Veya’s care. “Right after her liver surgery, she got RSV , and then a few days after that, she got overdosed with a lethal amount of potassium. It wasn't just a little bit, it was 10 times the regular amount that she normally gets, and it was during the evening when none of us were there.” Veya’s heart rate went to 350 beats per minute, and she had to be shocked three times to stabilize her. “I do have questions whether it actually was an accident or not, because these sorts of things happen when families step away. So, the timing of it, but also the amount. You know, it's one thing, if you gave a little extra, but 10 times the amount, like, an actual lethal dose?” Growing support Krystal shared the ups and downs of Veya’s journey on her Instagram account. Her photos, videos, and touching words lit a fire in many hearts around the world, and she ended up with close to 40,000 Instagram followers, many of whom were praying for Veya, and encouraging Krystal and her family. “For me, social media was like an open diary and a way for me to process but also a way for me to be able to connect with others that were raising children with Down Syndrome, because I knew nothing about it, and so it's been a really great place for resources and connecting.” But the care hasn’t only been virtual. Krystal and Jeremy are members of Trinity Canadian Reformed Church in Glanbrook, Ontario. And as she told Lucas back in July, “Our church community, they're phenomenal. I'll tell you this, we had a meal train set up for Veya when she was born, and we are 19 months into this and that same meal train is still going.” She added that the amount of support they have received allowed them to be fully present and to advocate for Veya, because everything else was being taken care of. The many prayers that were raised for their family carried them. “I don't think my husband and I really understood that till we lived this experience. Like you really feel carried by prayers. There's just this indescribable peace that comes with it.” Growing faith We read in James 1:3 how “the testing of your faith produces endurance” and Krystal attested to this when speaking about their journey prior to Veya’s death. “As much as we want to enter the next season of life and be off of this medical journey, there's a part of you that doesn't, because of the experience you have with God's nearness. Because it forces you to slow down and really lean into Him. “….The ways we've experienced God's goodness and care over these 19 months, we're forever thankful for that. Faith is not without pain. It's there to give you the courage to face it, right? And a lot of times this journey has really forced us to our knees.” She later added that, as hard as it has been, they have seen so much good come from this journey already, particularly with the many interactions with people in the hospital. Seeking justice After Veya’s promotion to glory, Krystal shared with Reformed Perspective that they hope to have further meetings with SickKids Hospital regarding the neglect that Veya experienced, which Krystal sees as a push to end Veya’s life rather than care for it. “What was happening was the team was trying to 'stealth euthanize' Veya through means of denying life-saving measures.” They are working with other families who experienced similar harms for their medically complex children at the same hospital, seeking to raise their concerns collectively. Her hope is to see a formal acknowledgement of harm, public reporting requirements, independent investigations, disability rights training, and whistleblower protection so that staff can report unsafe practices without fear of losing their jobs. Although she has devoted much of her past couple of years to being an advocate for Veya and others with disabilities, she also understands that she can only do so much. And that is OK. “Our God, The Creator of Life has the final say.” Advice for others When asked by RP what advice she would have for other families who may face similar situations, she urged them to document everything, including conversations and decisions, names, and copies of medical records. She also advised to never go into important meetings alone. Bring someone to witness and support you. Further, use clear and assertive language like “can you explain in writing why you are denying this treatment?” And if there are concerns, escalate them by asking to speak with a patient’s relations person or ombudsman, or even filing a complaint with the hospital leadership or licensing board. She encourages others to seek a second, or third opinion, and not be afraid to transfer care to another institution, even if it feels scary. And “trust your instincts – God gives them to us for a reason!” You know your child best so “if something feels wrong, it probably is.” Most soberly, she warns “know that Canada has become a death culture.” In an age where it has become legal to end the life of someone who requests it simply because they are suffering, it becomes all the more important to be on guard for the care of our loved ones, particularly those who are more vulnerable. “Instead of offering care, too many hospitals offer ‘comfort care only.’ Instead of fighting for life, they push families towards giving up and will blame you for your loved one’s suffering.” Her final advice is most encouraging. “You are not alone, God goes behind you and before you…. When you are battling the medical system for your child never forget to stop and ask God for guidance, strength, wisdom and peace. He sees, He knows, and He will lead you step by step.” A tribute for Veya In the weeks following Veya’s death, Krystal paid tribute to Veya with these words: “I didn’t have to look into your eyes to fall in love with you. I didn’t need to hear your soft, raspy cry to know you loved me too. I didn’t have to hold your hands to cherish you forever – because from the very beginning, within my womb, our hearts were already intertwined. “Veya, you changed me. Through you God gave me a deep perspective. You touched my soul and awakened a love so deep that can only be explained by His goodness. You gave me countless memories that I will hold close for the rest of my life. My heart aches in a way words can’t fully capture, and I know that ache won’t leave until we’re together again. …Though the longing never fades, each day moves me closer to the joy of holding you in Heaven.” Pictures used with permission of the Vanderbrugghens....

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A hill to die on

A couple of weeks ago, I attended a public lecture by Dr. Jordan Peterson at the University of Western Ontario. For those of you who don’t know, Dr. Peterson has found himself the target of transgender activists, some of whom actually claim that his refusal to use recently-invented “transgender pronouns” constituted violence. Labeling someone a perpetrator of violence for refusing to use the words you just made up, of course, also allows you to begin perpetrating real violence in response, and this has resulted in Peterson’s lectures being shut down by angry mobs. After the lecture, one student asked Peterson an interesting question. You’ve articulated at great length the dangers of post-modernism and political correctness, the student pointed out. But why this issue? Why choose transgender pronouns as the proverbial hill to die on? Peterson’s response was striking. “Why not?” he replied. When you’re fighting a war, there’s very rarely a compelling reason to die for the next yard of soil – but that’s how wars are won, and that is how the line is held – yard by yard. You have to pick something, and this is what I chose. His response reminded me of something I wrote about at length in my own book The Culture War: the tendency of Christians to count the cost and decide to opt out of fighting. Secular progressives are willing to fight a bloody war of attrition for every crimson inch of soil, from prayers at city council meetings to nativity scenes in public to launching cyber-lynch mobs on little old ladies who don’t want to bake cakes for gay weddings. Christians, on the other hand, often cave at the first sign of pressure. Douglas Wilson commented wryly on this habit on his blog in 2015: Whenever we get to that elusive and ever-receding “hill to die on,” we will discover, upon our arrival there, that it only looked like a hill to die on from a distance. Up close, when the possible dying is also up close, it kind of looks like every other hill. All of a sudden it looks like a hill to stay alive on, covered over with topsoil that looks suspiciously like common ground. So it turns out that surrendering hills is not the best way to train for defending the most important ones. Retreat is habit-forming. Now granted, as I’ve written before, Christians are often too busy raising their families and trying to live their lives to take a stand in the culture wars. For every baker or florist who gets targeted by gay rights activists, you can bet there are hundreds of others who quietly knuckled under to avoid becoming the center of a noisy lawsuit. But we need more men like Dr. Jordan Peterson. He may not be a Christian, but he is, as one writer so eloquently put it, “the frog that wouldn’t boil.” Each yard of ground we give up without a fight is another step closer to being backed into a corner. Dr. Peterson was willing to take a stand. He was willing to stop, look around, and say “Here. This is where I fight.” Each of us will have to make that decision sometime in the near future. And better now than later – it is easier to defend territory than it is to reclaim it. Jonathon Van Maren is the author of The Culture War and blogs at The theBridgehead.ca This article was first published in 2017....

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