Editor’s note: In “The pros and cons of online dating” Peter Riemersma shared how he met his wife via a Reformed singles site. In this post Robin shares her side of the story.
I was skeptical about the whole online dating thing…until I saw that the Soverign Grace Singles website was a smaller, more close knit and “safer” community and would be good to try even to just make friends. Then, Peter from Canada (yikes – it seemed so far at the time) wrote me and I wondered what to do.
So I prayed about it, and thought to myself (with nudges from the Holy Spirit I’m sure)…is anything impossible for God? Maybe He wants me to go through this type of courting, rather than the type I had always imagined. I always thought someone would just be “sent” to my local vicinity and we could spend time in groups together and get to know one another over a long period. The Lord had something quite different in store for me!
Something about Peter was different. I wasn’t afraid, though I was very cautious at first, and we just naturally corresponded even despite the distance. And we both enjoyed doing so. With the proper prayer and caution, I don’t think distance should prevent a relationship.
But it is very difficult, at the same time. Being apart between visits was hard, yet at the same time it forced us to really get to know one another through talking, and not just going to movies together and sitting there like zombies, or getting too physically involved (in fact Peter and I chose not to even kiss until our wedding day). We had to pray for one another remotely, and trust God to work out the immigration details as well. It was a lot to handle…but I wouldn’t trade the whole experience, or having Peter as my husband now, for the world. I see how God led us through everything step by step.
Step by step – I guess that’s the key thing. Try not to feel rushed – and if a gentleman is rushing you slow down and see if he’ll wait or cool it a bit. That’s what I did with Peter for a time, too. We both knew it was right when we felt the same after this “test.”