“Love…does not insist on its own way.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 

Scripture reading: Philippians 2:1-8; 2 Corinthians 5:14-15

Do you insist on your own way in the church? Perhaps you rationalize that your way is better and will benefit others. Sometimes that might be true. But to insist on it and ram your way through, when it’s not a matter of sin, is to make it into an idol. It’s selfishness. It’s harmful to others and creates discord in the church. If the Bible is indifferent on something, we have to be careful not to insist on our own way. Our sinful tendency is to elevate our personal preferences and cultural traditions to the level of moral requirement and a place of superiority over others. We might not put it in these terms, but functionally this is what we are doing. We need to remember that love does not insist on its own way. Rather, it invites a conversation on matters upon which the Bible is indifferent. It doesn’t insist, “THIS is the way it SHOULD be done,” end of conversation.

The song of our hearts should be “Have Thine own way Lord” not “Have mine own way, Lord.” As Paul writes elsewhere, “the love of Christ controls us” for He died, “that those who live might no longer live for themselves but for him who for their sake died and was raised” (2 Corinthians 5:14-15). And so, “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 2:4-5).

Suggestions for prayer

Confess your sins of insisting on your own way. Rest in Christ, who died for your sins of insisting on your own way. Pray that the love of Christ would control you so that you no longer live for yourself but for Christ and His interests, for the good of others.

Rev. Brian Cochran is ordained in the United Reformed Churches in North America and has served as the pastor of Redeemer Reformation Church in Regina, SK, for 14 years. This month he starts a new call to Grace URC in Torrance, CA. Get this devotional delivered directly to your phone each day via our RP App. This devotional is made available by the Nearer To God Devotional team, who also make available in print, for purchase, at NTGDevotional.com.