“Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.” – Colossians 3:21
Scripture reading: Deuteronomy 6:4-9 & Hebrews 12:3-11
It is, no doubt, safe to say that Paul’s words here certainly have application for mothers, too. Mothers are instrumental in bringing children up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. As a Christian man and as a Christian minister, I am beyond indebted to the Christian instruction and example that I received from my mother.
But Paul singles out the fathers. And he does so in light of the fact that husbands and fathers are the head of the home. Therefore, the primary responsibility falls on the father. From Colossians 3 and Ephesians 6, we learn that fathers are to do two things. Negatively, fathers are to be careful that they do not provoke their children to anger. And positively, they are to bring their children up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
To be sure, discipline must be given, but it must be done carefully and consistently. Any form of discipline that is not modelled off the heavenly Father’s discipline is bound to provoke and discourage. Parents need to remember that they don’t discipline their children simply because they want their lives to be easier or to run more smoothly. But parents discipline their children in order that they might respond to God in faith and in subsequent obedience to his commandments, which this obedience is best nurtured by love and encouragement, not by shame and fear.
Suggestions for prayer
Pray for all the parents in your congregation. Ask God to give them wisdom teaching their children to love the Lord and to keep His commandments.
Rev. Bryce De Zwarte is a native of Pella, Iowa and a graduate of Dordt University and Mid-America Reformed Seminary. Rev. De Zwarte has been serving as the pastor of the Adoration URC in Vineland, Ontario since April of 2020. Get this devotional delivered directly to your phone each day via our RP App. This devotional is made available by the Nearer To God Devotional team, who also make available in print, for purchase, at NTGDevotional.com.
